Time Factor and a successful marriage Pt 1
Bisi Adewale
Two love birds frolicking around best explains two young unmarried people in love. In spite of tight schedules, they always make out time to be together. Once married, in most cases, the musical tune changes. Time becomes so costly as the quality time spent together evolves into a lonely affairs. What kept love before marriage will keep it once married.
1. Busyness., Everyone will always have one thing or the other to do. However, when it appears to be the detriment of your marriage then watch out. Jobs, career and ministry are things that easily keep men away while children and household chores keep the women away. Many married people can hardly recognize each other again. They are reduced to two busy people heading in different directions till intimacy whither.
Solution: No matter how busy you are, deliberately create time to connect with your spouse. Marriage can never blossom when you are not always together.
2. Lack of Attention. For those whose schedules are not so filled, the time spent at home is still suffocated by other activities. Most men will go home with their laptop, I-pad, newspaper, Blackberry, etc that becomes their companion. A lot of women are also caught up in endless hours in the kitchen.
Solution: Discuss about how to connect at home. Agree about when and for how long chatting, browsing, etc will take place when you are home together. Monitor how much time you spend with these gadgets and learn to talk. Play and relax with your spouse.
3. Television. Television is another major enemy of the modern marriage. As good as it is, if it is not handled with wisdom, it may corrode intimacy in marriage. Most couples who spend time together watching television will just discover they are not really spending time together.
Solution: As a rule, take the television out of your bedroom. Your bedroom should be reserved as a place of rest, sleep, romance and sex. It should not be another theater or cinema hall. Don’t get addicted to television. Don’t allow it to always take over your evenings. Know the best time to switch it off and on it. Be in charge of the television; don’t allow it to take charge of your home.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
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