Wrong Mindset in Marriage
As earlier noted, a negative mindset has the capacity to endanger any marriage because it determines your character in marriage. It determines how you talk, what you do or even fail to do.
1. Negative Thinking. No marriage can stand the flood of life once either of the parties involved begins to think negatively about his or her spouse and the marriage. Thoughts the center around an idea that you got married to the wrong person, your spouse is not completely suitable for you or someone else is better than your spouse, all hinder the progress of your marriage.
Solution: Guard your heart with all diligence; don’t allow your heart to think negatively about your spouse or your marriage, hold captive every evil imagination
2. Battle Mindedness. Many believe that marriage is a battle field, so they go into marriage with a battle-set mind.
Solution: marriage is not a boxing ring, it is a place of love so be ready to love. If there is any misunderstanding, settle it and don’t talk any more about it
3. Solo Mindedness. Despite being married, many believe they are still entitled to running their individual lives like singles. Marriage is about two people coming together, living together, sharing and caring for each other. You cannot make it work with “solo mind”.
Solution: Let go your singles mentality. Get married in your mind. Release your mind to your spouse; don’t just join your hands with him or her, join your mind also
4. Soul-tie. You cannot build your marriage if you have a soul-tie with your parents, siblings ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. Before you can truly love the person you have gotten married to, you must separate yourself from these people emotionally. Except you get an emotion, physical and mental “divorce” from this set of people, you cannot get the best from your marriage.
Solution: Obey Genesis 2:24-25. Leave your parents, friends, siblings, etc mentally, emotionally, financially, physically, etc and cleave to your own spouse
5. Negative privilege mindedness. This means you are thinking your spouse is very fortunate to have married you. You believe he or she is privileged and is gaining in the marriage while you are not gaining anything. This kind of belief will make you to start misbehaving to your spouse.
Solution: Develop a positive privilege mindedness, where you begin to see it as a privilege to have married your spouse. Look at it as getting married to the president or the queen. When you have this kind of mind in you, you will become a pleasant partner to live with.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, Whatsaap 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com, facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter @bisiadewale
