Marriage: Things You Must Not Do When You Are Tired Of Your Marriage
Pastor Bisi Adewale
Are you tired of your marriage? Is your marriage really hurting? Are you thinking of packing it up? Are you looking for the exit? Then this chapter is specially written for you.
I quite agree that a marriage can be hurting at times. It can sometimes get to the boiling point and make couples look for ways to “evaporate” from their homes. But there are solutions to this. You must not take any step at this stage without godly counsel. You must be careful not to offend God.
THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO
(1) NEVER SEPARATE. Some couples erroneously think that it is better to “give a gap” when there is crisis “to make tempers cool down”. But the truth is, the longer you are separated from your spouse, the more difficult it becomes to come together again. It even makes it easier for the devil to use you against each other. Avoid separation as much as possible. Stay in that marriage to make it work.
(2) NEVER INVOLVE A THIRD PARTY. There is always the temptation of involving outsiders whenever there is crisis at home. But most of the time, third parties are biased and may not say the truth. They may even have their hidden agenda, or be experiencing something worst in their own marriages. They may also not be knowledgeable to handle marital crisis. If you must involve a third party at all, let it be your pastor or a qualified marriage counsellor.
(3) NEVER GIVE UP. Don’t give up on your marriage; it is not yet over. Never say you have tried your best. Until your marriage becomes the best, you have not put in your best.
(4) NO DIVORCE. It is a grave error to think that divorce is the best option for you under any circumstance. There is no happiness in divorce. Research has shown that many divorcees end up living sad and frustrated lives. Wisdom demands you don’t join them.
Never think of divorce; don’t even consider it as an option. Stay in that marriage to make it work. Don’t end that marriage at this juncture. Fight for your marriage, you will surely win.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 40 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
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