A SIGN THAT HE WILL BEAT YOU IN MARRIAGE
Bisi Adewale
“My husband and I attended the same primary and secondary school. He was very small in his primary school days, but he grew up faster than many of us. As we entered secondary school, he became strong, muscular and fearsome, right from year two; he became a bully and would beat anybody that crossed his path.
Girls in the class were always at his mercy as he used vulgar words on them and went as far as raping one of them. That was the kind of life he lived as a youngster.
Why did you now marry him? The counsellor asked the traumatized woman”.
“Thank you sir, I will take my time to narrate how it happened. Due to a change in environment, I did not see my husband for the next eight years till I met him at the orientation camp for the compulsory one year National Service in Jos, Plateau State (Nigeria). At first, I was skeptical but his role in the camp and his deep involvement in Nigeria Christian Corpers’ Fellowship (NCCF) convinced me that he has changed. He was the one who invited me to the fellowship.
With time, we became friends and ended dating each other. During our courtship on two occasions, he beat two young ladies. I did not see anything wrong with it because I felt he was defending me. The act only strengthened my love and respect for him and convinced me to marry him.
After our youth service, we got married. Two months into our marriage, he changed and became a thorn in my flesh. He was sturbborn, unapproachable and never sought counsel from anybody. Before the end of that year, I became a punching bag. Despite my fragile state due to pregnancy, he beat me as he would fight his mates. I regret marrying him!
Young lady, do not get entangled with a man who bullies, strikes and have no respect for women. A man who doesn’t see dignity in womanhood is not yet to be your husband.
© Bisi Adewale
