Developing Good Character for a Better Marriage Pt 2
– Bisi Adewale
Good character cannot be overemphasized if you really desire to have a glorious marriage. I want you to know that it does not come by accident but you must consciously imbibe it. Listed below are characters you must develop to secure a better marriage:
1. Diligence. Many women have loosed their marriage because of laziness. Men are not looking for full-time housewives; they want hardworking wives who can contribute to the family income. Women, quit the lazy business. Get yourself engage in doing something worthwhile.
2. Self control. To have self is to be in charge of yourself (i.e) your emotions, actions and reactions attitudes. Your husband will always offend you, people will always get on your nerves but you must not allow your emotions to take over your actions. You must not over-react; you must not demonstrate uncontrollable anger. You must have control over your body; don’t engage in sexual immorality with any other man.
3. Good Communication. It is the mouth that signifies the commencement of a marital relationship because it is when the mouth pronounce the statement “yes I do” during wedding that you are proclaimed husband and wife. That same mouth can destroy the marriage if not well managed. Be a communication expert. Speak positively, speak with humility. Avoid vulgar words like you’re a fool, you are stupid, foolish man, I will divorce you, etc. Make use of statements like “I am sorry, I am proud of you, please, thank you” etc.
4. Hospitality. Though many may not take this to be vital in building a blissful marriage, but it is. Nonchalant or hostility towards the members of your husband’s family or once the relationship between you, your husband and his family turn sour, your marriage is at risk. Welcome every visitor with a smile and qualify treatment. No man can resist a wife with a welcoming face.
5. Versatility. To be versatile means to be good at doing a lot of different things and able to learn new skills quickly and easily. Be a pioneer of new business, be productive. Get things done through many means. Improve your level of productivity and become the pride of your husband and children.
6. Patience. To live with a man for the rest of your life, you need patience in large quantity because your husband will offend you, make you feel pain but you must not react negatively. Because patience equip one with the ability to tolerate other people annoying behavior without getting angry. There are many divorce cases in marriage because many married men and women lack patience in their characters.
7. Appreciation. Appreciation is a motivation to your husband. One good deed well appreciated will open the door for greater deeds. Let appreciation become your way of life. Attach importance to every kind of gesture and gifts given to you. Do not look down on a gift. Appreciate little favour and kind gestures. Don’t let any kindness go unnoticed even if it’s below your expectations. When you are found of appreciating your husband, he will be fond of you.
8. Godliness. Godliness connotes godly character and way of life. Don’t just be a member of a denomination, be godly in your conversation, actions, attitudes and dressing. You can’t be godly and be insulting, disobeying, or keeping malice with your husband and his family. Be godly indeed and let there be reflection of godliness in all that you do.
9. Industrious. Successful marriage is a hard work and men generally love hard working women. Industrious wives are hardworking wives. As a wife, you need a develop a positive attitude towards work. Avoid being lazy, when you are lazy, your house will be dirty. You will be a liability to your husband. Don’t be a full-time house wife, work with your hands and be a pillar of support for your husband and children. Though, you may not have a white collar job, you can create a job for yourself by trading with your talents and also engage in other business which included a consultancy services.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
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