21 DANGEROUS ASSUMPTIONS OF CHRISTIAN PARENTS
“And when he was twelve years old, they went up after the custom of the feast; and when they had fulfilled the days, as they were returning, the boy Jesus tarried behind in Jerusalem; and his parents knew it not; but supposing him to be in the company, they went a day’s journey; and they sought for him among their kinsfolk and acquaintance:”
??Luke? ?2:42-44? ?
1) TRANSPARENT-CHILD THINKING:
“I know my Children 100%, I can trust them for anything”
“But Jehovah said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have rejected him: for Jehovah seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but Jehovah looketh on the heart.”
??1 Samuel? ?16:7? ?ASV??
— You don’t know your Children, only God does.
— Children have many faces: Home face, Church face, Friends face, School face, Public face, Private face, Secret face.
— Ask questions, probe, check, pray. David never knew a rapist (Amon) Murderer (Absalom) was living under his roof
2) SCHOOL ADEQUACY THINKING:
“Sending my Children to School is enough and adequate for the training they need for Success in life”
— Teachers where trained to Educate not to train
— Parents where commanded by God to train.
Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it..
3) BOARDING SCHOOL PARENTING THINKING:
Boarding School is the best for my Children
“And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.”
??Deuteronomy? ?11:19?.
— God Commanded parental work is a 24/7 work in the parental years of a Child (Ages 0-15)
— Burden School can not fulfill God agenda for his own kind of parenting work.
4) CHURCH-GROOMING THINKING:
— “My Children are Christian because they go to Church regularly”
— “Church service is enough for my children spiritual growth”
“For I have known him, to the end that he may command his children and his household after him, that they may keep the way of Jehovah, to do righteousness and justice; to the end that Jehovah may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.”
??Genesis? ?18:19?.
— Your Children eats physical food 3 times per day in 7 days making 21 Meals.
But they only eat spiritual meal 1 or twice a week in Church, can you see why our Children are becoming secular.
— Church is not to train or raise your Children for you, you are to feed them daily at home and top it up in Church on Sunday.
5) FREE RANGE THINKING:
“I don’t need to Monitor My Children they are good Children”
“The rod and reproof give wisdom; But a child left to himself causeth shame to his mother.”
??Proverbs? ?29:15? ?ASV??
6) HEZEKIAH THINKING: “My Children will take care of themselves i don’t need to think of their tomorrow, all I need is peace in my time”
??Isaiah? ?39:5-8? ?
5) Then said Isaiah to Hezekiah, Hear the word of Jehovah of hosts:
6) Behold, the days are coming, when all that is in thy house, and that which thy fathers have laid up in store until this day, shall be carried to Babylon: nothing shall be left, saith Jehovah.
7) And of thy sons that shall issue from thee, whom thou shalt beget, shall they take away; and they shall be eunuchs in the palace of the king of Babylon.
8) Then said Hezekiah unto Isaiah, Good is the word of Jehovah which thou hast spoken. He said moreover, For there shall be peace and truth in my days.”
7) PERFECT CHILDREN THINKING
“My Children are good and Godly Children you cant fault them”
“And when he was twelve years old, they went up after the custom of the feast; and when they had fulfilled the days, as they were returning, the boy Jesus tarried behind in Jerusalem; and his parents knew it not; but supposing him to be in the company, they went a day’s journey; and they sought for him among their kinsfolk and acquaintance:”
??Luke? ?2:42-44? ?
— Please don’t trust without testing
— Testing continues until they are married.
8) MASS PRODUCTION THINKING:
“Parenting styles should be the same for all Children no matter their ages and gender”
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”
??Genesis? ?1:27? ?
— Every Child is different as an individual. Temperament, birth order, spiritual growth, personalty etc
— Every Girl-Child is different from a Boy-Child don’t raise them the same way.
— Every Child is different by his or her age
9) INTENSIVE CARE THINKING: (Helicopter Parenting)
“I need to monitor my Children and make all decisions for them throughout my lives”
“The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.”
??Psalms? ?23:1-2? ?
— The lord as the shepherd never put the food and the water into our Mouth he only take us beside the still water.
— Don’t do everything for your Child, train them to do it.
10) PERFECT PARENT THINKING:
“Parents are always right, Children knows nothing. My is always the best for them”
“And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but nurture them in the chastening and admonition of the Lord.”
??Ephesians? ?6:4? ?
— Parents can be wrong, can make terrible mistakes.
— Mature parents apologizes to their Children when they err.
11) OPEN-LOVE THINKING
“My Children knows that i love them, I need not tell them, i need not show them, i need not appreciate them lest i spoil them”
“He brought me to the banqueting-house, And his banner over me was love..”
??Song of Solomon? ?2:4? ?
— Atmosphere of love is what a Child define as love, not the love in your heart.
12) SOLO PARENTING THINKING
“I can raise my Children alone, nobody should come close”
You cant raise your Child alone the following are involve in real parenting work.
— Divine parent
“And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord; and great shall be the peace of thy children.”
??Isaiah? ?54:13?
— Primary parents
— Secondary parents
— Village Parents
13) ZERO DISCIPLINE THINKING
‘Modern Children need no spanking or discipline, don’t hurt their psyche”
“Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; But the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.”
??Proverbs? ?22:15? ?
14) PROPERTY THINKING:
“They are my Children my Property, i can beat them or kick them the way i like”
“I am the man that hath seen affliction by the rod of his wrath.”
??Lamentations? ?3:1? ?
— Use rod of correction not rod of wrath
15) SAVED CHILDREN THINKING:
“My Children are safe, they are not expose to drug or sexual predators”
“Be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks, and look well to thy herds.”
??Proverbs? ?27:23? ?KJV??
16) MANUFACTURER THINKING
“I need to provide everything my Children need to them, that is what matters, even if am never at home they understand its because of them”
“Again, I considered all travail, and every right work, that for this a man is envied of his neighbour. This is also vanity and vexation of spirit.”
??Ecclesiastes? ?4:4? ?
17) COMBUSTIVE PARENT THINKING:
“My anger and shouting will motivate them to obey, Shouting on Children is normal”
“But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.”
??James? ?1:4? ?
18) I KNOW- NOTHING THINKING
“I dont know much, what can i teach my Children”
“If thou be wise, thou shalt be wise for thyself: but if thou scornest, thou alone shalt bear it.”
??Proverbs? ?9:12? ?KJV??
19) I KNOW IT ALL THINKING
“I know too much about parenting, i dont need to learn from anybody”
“Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser: teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.”
??Proverbs? ?9:9? ?
20) PRAYER MOUNTAIN THINKING
“All i need is to pray for my Children God will settle the rest”
“Tell ye your children of it, and let your children tell their children, and their children another generation.”
??Joel? ?1:3?
21) GOD-WILL- CARE THINKING
“I am too busy to pray for my Children but i know God will take care for them”
“And it was so, when the days of their feasting were gone about, that Job sent and sanctified them, and rose up early in the morning, and offered burnt-offerings according to the number of them all: for Job said, It may be that my sons have sinned, and renounced God in their hearts. Thus did Job continually.”
??Job? ?1:5? ?
— If you are too busy to pray, Devil is not too busy to destroy them
— It will be an act of carelessness not to cover the head of your Children in the battle of life.
