15 WAYS TO DEAL WITH ANGER BEFORE IT DESTROYS YOU

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15 WAYS TO DEAL WITH ANGER BEFORE IT DESTROYS YOU 

By Bisi Adewale 

Anger is a bitter emotional feeling that comes upon one when situations do not fit into our desire and expectations. It is also a strong feeling of wanting to harm, beat or criticise someone because they have done something unfair, unacceptable, cruel, offensive or when they fail to meet our expectations. 

There are some things you need to do before anybody annoys you. You should deal with yourself and make them your way of life. If you wait till you get angry before learning how to handle anger, you will disappoint yourself and destroy your life, destiny and your marriage. One of the biggest mistakes people make about anger is that everybody has mastered how to get angry but only a few people know how to deal with it. As a result, they allow anger to deal with them and their homes. 

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You need to know the best way to handle anger if you want to master life: 

  1. Consider anger as a sin and stop bragging about it.
  2. Always remember that anger rests in the bosom of a fool. (Eccl 7:9) 
  3. Say it to yourself, “I will never raise my voice in anger; I am in charge of my emotion” (50 times) in seven days.
  4. I will rather keep quiet (wisely) rather than speak in anger and look foolish (say it 40 times)
  5. During emergencies, I will swallow my saliva ten times when I am really angry before I speak so that I may apply more common sense. 
  6. No matter what happens, I will never speak to hurt my partner; my speech will be full of grace and seasoned with salt (Colossians 4:6).
  7. I will allow the Holy Spirit to be in charge of my emotions (Repeat 30 times) Gal 5:22-
  8. Spirit of meekness, envelope my spirit. Spirit of quietness, take over my emotion. Spirit of self- control, take over my mouth, hands and legs (Repeat 50 times). 
  9. Use mind builder techniquesMemorise and quote the following scriptures many times until they become part of you. 
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Ecclesiastes 7:9 (20 times), Proverbs 16:32 (40 times), Proverbs 19:11 (20 times)

  1. Use AFS (Advance Forgiveness System). Forgive your spouse even before you are offended. 13. 11. Rebuke any negative thought
  2. Forgive as soon as you are offended. Destroy anything that will remind you of the offence. 
  3. Never keeps a record of an offence 
  4. Turn issues that would have annoyed you to humour.
  5. Abstain from an angry man so that you don’t learn his ways

If you are married to an angry person, do the following: 

– Pray seriously for your spouse

– Never pre-empt errors from your spouse; belief in him or her 

– Please bear with your spouse while the Lord is working on him/her. Be patient.

– Pray together about it

– Study the Bible together

– Do not be too big to say “I am sorry” to pacify him /her.

– Utter soft words to him/her (Proverbs. 15:1)

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Remember, this is a therapy. Do it constantly until it becomes part of you and you will start to feel the work of the Holy Spirit on your emotion. 

 

© Bisi Adewale 2020