12 HIDDEN HEALERS OF MARRIAGE .Part 1

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12 HIDDEN HEALERS OF MARRIAGE .Part 1

-Bisi Adewale

12 HIDDEN HEALERS OF MARRIAGE. Part 1
When a marriage is sick,it needs to be healed. A marriage can become sick when it lacks natural and supernatural nutrients to make it work.

Symptom of this sickness can be argument,strife,malice,hatred,bickering,threat, constant disagreement etc
But note that no matter the state of your marriage,there is no marriage that is irreparable in the workshop of God,all you need to do are the following:  12 HIDDEN HEALERS OF MARRIAGE .Part 1
1) DEVELOP A POSITIVE MIND SET ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE
Your marriage will be whatever your heart makes it to be.If you allow rubbish in your heart about your spouse you will experience wild wind in marriage. No matter your disagreement,see your spouse as the best for you.
Proverbs 23:7 KJV
[7] For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.

2) BE COMMITTED TO FORGIVENESS .12 HIDDEN HEALERS OF MARRIAGE
You will definitely offend each other one time or the other,what will keep your marriage moving is forgiveness in spite of Imperfectness of both of you. Quality marriage comes from total commitment to continuous forgiveness for the rest of your life.
Ephesians 4:32 KJV
[32] And be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

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3) DEPARTMENTAL MARRIAGE TALK.   12 HIDDEN HEALERS OF MARRIAGE
Every marriage has at least 18 departments, frequent holding what I love to refer to as departmental marriage talk,will make your marriage better. This involves talking about different components of your marriage,which includes: Spiritual life,Health,Finance,Sex,Children,in -laws, Jobs/Career/Ministry, vision, outlook, Food, Projects etc
Departmental marriage talk involves you to sit down deliberately,facing each other,with writing materials in your hands,picking the “departments” one by one talking about them,looking at where things are not working well,how to make things better,without blaming anybody,but talking as partners in love for mutual benefits. Please, don’t leave one department until you have done justice to it.
Proverbs 27:23 KJV
[23] Be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks, and look well to thy herds.  12 HIDDEN HEALERS OF MARRIAGE.Part 1

4) DAYS OFF: Taking some days off  monthly to be with your spouse,to talk,play,plan,pray,sleep,rest,unwind and make love will help your marriage greatly. At times, we are too busy to make our marriage better,lack of attention and stress can lead to absence of intimacy which may be hurting your marriage. As you are reading this,take some days off with your spouse far away from Job, children, phones, laptops etc may just be the answer.
Genesis 26:8 KJV
 And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife.

5) FRESH TOUCH: Having stay long together in marriage may be hurting your marriage, it may be the reason  your marriage look dull and uninteresting,it may be the reason why things look bored and you feel lonely despite his or presence. Give a new touch to your marriage by getting new knowledge about marriage, love, romance and sex.This you can do by listening to marriage messages from anointed men of God or read marriage books alone or with your spouse or attend marriage programs, seminars or quality couples banquet meetings.
2 Timothy 2:15 KJV
 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.

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6) RECONCILIATION: Forgiveness is good but it is not enough to make your marriage work,you need reconciliation with your spouse. If you are the offending partner; apologize to your spouse and talk extensively so that you can move on
If you are the offended partner, forgive your spouse and call him or her into a LOVE MEETING where you can talk things out without blaming or passing judgement and please don’t wait for apology if your spouse is not ready to give it especially if he or she does not think he or she offends you or your spouse has reasons for his/her actions.
2 Corinthians 5:18 KJV
And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation;

wise counsel thou shalt make thy war: and in multitude of counsellors there is safety.