8 THINGS WHICH COURTSHIP IS NOT

8 THINGS WHICH COURTSHIP IS NOT

-Bisi Adewale

8 THINGS WHICH COURTSHIP IS NOT

There are eight different things which courtship is not but ignorance of them have led to misuse of relationship and abuse of courtship.Get this understanding today.8 THINGS WHICH COURTSHIP IS NOT

1. Courtship is not marriage. The mere fact that you are engaged does not give you the permission to enjoy all these conjugal rights. Hence, sex, kissing, hugging, fondling, and caressing should be avoided in a righteous courtship.8 THINGS WHICH COURTSHIP IS NOT
2. Ordinary Friendship. Courtship is not a marriage, but it is definitely deeper than an ordinary friendship. That is why it has to involve proposal and consent.
3. Broken Courtship is not a divorce. While a broken marriage is a divorce, a broken courtship is not. There is therefore room for breakages in courtship, if it is not working out. Broken courtship is better than a broken home.8 THINGS WHICH COURTSHIP IS NOT
4. Canopy Ministry. This is an act by which a brother who has not really proposed to a lady is pretending they are in a relationship thereby sending wrong signal to the people, and blocking all other brothers that may want to propose to the sister. It is also known as “shadowing”.8 THINGS WHICH COURTSHIP IS NOT
5. Not boy friend and Girlfriend affair. Courtship involves a deeper relationship that deserves all seriousness. It is not ‘going steady’, but getting ready for marriage. When proposal is been made, it should not be “I want you to be my friend” but should be deeper than that. Christian life does not give room for ordinary ‘going steady’ the proposal should be clear enough. “I want to marry you, will you marry me?” Or “ I want your hands in marriage”.
6. Not Dating. Courtship is not ordinary dating that has no basis or commitment. In courtship you are committed to the other party and there is a formal discussion of the direction of the relationship.
7. Not Joint Ventures. It is not a business venture but rather a union for marriage preparation.
8. Not trial Marriage or cohabitation. It is not a period to live together, to test ‘whether we can actually marry each other’, rather it is a period of prayerful preparation for a blissful home.

Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog:  www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter@bisiadewale