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DO NOT USE MICROSCOPE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
‘’Get this paper and write bad things your spouse is doing in your marriage that you can remember and on the other side write all the bad things you are doing in the marriage’’
That was Mrs Badmus telling her Youngest Daughter who came to report her husband’s bad habit to her; they’ve just been married for six months.
The young lady collected the Paper from her Mum, brought out a pen and wrote so many things after which she handed the paper over to her Mum.
The Mum said, i can see you wrote only two bad things you are doing in this Marriage , but you wrote 35 things your husband is doing wrong, does it mean you are a Saint and he is that Bad.
Mum I’m trying my best in that marriage, Jaiye is the one, he is the terrible one am really living a miserable life, she began to cry.
Her wise Mum allowed her cry for sometime before talking. In your report i saw some fundamental things there and i will talk to him about them, but majority of them are simple things which you have only magnified.
Here you wrote that he snores heavily, eats too loudly, he yawns noisily, he is not refined, he doesn’t comb his hair very well, he put his Socks inside his shoes, he pressed the tooth paste from the middle.
You see my daughter to enjoy a great marriage stop putting the microscope on your Husband’s mistakes, put it on yours and stop pretending you are a saint.
Dear listener
When two humans, who are not Angels, get married, they bring different imperfections into the home. They double their errors, multiply the infirmities. One is enough to destroy any home, now we have two people bringing their mistakes to bear.
Most of the time in Marriage, instead of dealing with these errors in our lives, we put a microscope on the ones in our spouses, this simple behaviour is what kills most marriages, that is why divorce is on the increase. How i wish they can look inward first.
The state of your marriage today is more about you than about your spouse. I can hear your protests, i expect it, it is part of the problem. If you can put the microscope on your errors and stop putting it on that of your spouse things will change for good in your marriage.
