By Bisi Adewale
Marriage of distinction is an excellent marriage, a model marriage, a marriage of peace and joy, a marriage that is fulfilling the purpose of God bringing joy to all involved. You need to strive to build a marriage of distinction.
HOW TO BUILD A MARRIAGE OF DISTINCTION
1: SALVATION: Give your life to Christ, surrender your totality to him. That is where the success of marriage begins. Salvation is the foundation of good destiny; you can’t negotiate that. Until Jesus becomes your Lord you are not ready for a great marriage.
Jesus answered, verily, verily, I say unto thee, except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit John 3:5, 6 KJV.
2: PREPARATION: Preparation is very important. You prepare for failure when you fail to prepare for success. You may end up in regrets and disappointment if you fail to prepare for marriage. The preparations of the heart in man and the answer of the tongue, is from the Lord Proverbs 16:1 (KJV).
3: CONTRIBUTION: What you plant is what you will reap in your marriage. What you donate is what you are going to receive.
And Rebekah lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Isaac, she lighted off the camel. For she had said unto the servant, what man is this that walketh in the field to meet us? And the servant had said, It is my master: therefore she took a Veil, and covered herself. And the servant told Isaac all things that he had done. And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death Genesis 24:64-67 (KJV).
Whatever you give is what you will get. Rebecca donated submission and respect for her husband; she got acceptance, love in return. Isaac donated love, acceptance of his wife; he got comfort and rest of mind at home in return.
If you donate joy in your marriage you will reap peace, if you donate love you will reap comfort, if you donate hatred you will reap strife and if you donate a battle you will reap war. What are you donating?
4: CONCENTRATION: It is right focus. Let your priority be God, family, career in that order. Right concentration leads to work- life balance and this enhances a great marriage. On the other hand, wrong focus leads to a very difficult marriage and lopsided family life.
Turn not to the right hand nor to the left: remove thy foot from evil Proverbs 4:27 (KJV).
5: PROVISION: Give your family care, love, money, shelter and so on.
But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel 1 Timothy 5:8 (KJV).
6: AFFECTION: Marry the person you love, love the person you marry. Love verbally, practically, physically, emotionally, financially. Use every opportunity to show your love in kindness, cash, good words, support and prayer.
He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love Song of Solomon 2:4 (KJV).
7: CELEBRATION: Celebrate your spouse above any human being; let everybody around you know you do. Don’t just love your spouse; celebrate him in your heart, with your mouth, in your actions and reactions. Don’t ever speak evil of your spouse when he is not there. It is childish to do that. Don’t just love your spouse in your heart celebrate the one you decided to marry. Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee Song of Solomon 4:7 (KJV).
