True Love Test
True Love Test
TEST 1- Attraction test- What attracts you to the man/lady and what attracts him/her to you? If it is outward appearances like hair, set of teeth, car, money, breast, beauty, voice, shape, buttocks, height, position, gift, complexion etc it is infatuation. True love depends on Godly qualities, intelligence, fear of God, hard work, integrity, submission etc. If what you love is just the appearance, it appears you are just being lustful, if this appearance is no more there what do you think will happen to your so-called love?
Outward appearance is just based on the “CONTAINER” but true love GO for the “CONTENT” FIRST BEFORE considering the “CONTAINER”.
TEST 2 – Purpose test – Why do you want that person? Is it to marry him/her or just to have sex with her or to kiss him, to touch her breast, get his money or enjoy his big car and house?
If it is not based on life -long commitment, forget it; it is not love, it is lust. And if you noticed that somebody is not really interested in marrying you, but have ulterior motive, you better run away from the fellow.
TEST 3 – Activity test- What do you normally do when you are together? I think you are truly in love, if you do the following things whenever you are together- Planning about your future, praying together, studying the Bible together, attending Christian seminars, discussing about God and His service and about yourselves.
If all these are not involved and all you do is to kiss, hug, cuddle, fondle, watch dirty films, go to cinema houses and have sex, you are not in love though you will think you are, but you are only being lustful and getting lost from the presence of God.
TEST 4 – Caring test – Does the person care about your life, academics, emotion, feelings, careers, or all he/she wanted is to have his/her way; how you feel about it notwithstanding; the person is not in love with you. He wants sex despite the fact that you objected to it. She wants money even if it means you stealing it, it shows that the person does not care for you because true love cares, and considers.
TEST 5 – Longevity test – How long do you think the relationship will last, is it till you find another person? True love is permanent while lust is “peck and go” “Hit and run” do not be foolish, take to your heels.
TEST 6 – Starting test – Infatuation starts fast, there is no such thing as love at first sight, there can be infatuation and lust at first sight. Real love always starts slowly it can not be any other way, you have to know the person before you can truly love him/her LOVE IS NEVER IN HASTE.
TEST 7 – Purity test – Does your relationship glorified God? Is it godly, If it does not, it is not love, it is of the devil, it is lust, it is sin.
TEST 8 – Divine Relationship test – How far is your relationship with God; Since you started this present relationship, check your prayer life, Bible study life, your commitment to the things of God, your hearing from God, do you feel the presence of God or you feel “dry?”. If that relationship has separated you from God it is not love it is lust, go out of it, before it destroys your life.
TEST 9 – Interest test – How consistent is your interest? In infatuation and lust, your interest in each other blows hot and cold, the reason is that your interest grows so fast that the root are shallow and is based only on emotions which can go up and down.
For real love, your feelings are likely to be warm and tender instead of hot and cold, not the kind that is ready to kill the guy that he sees with his girl, true love is matured and courteous.
TEST 10 – Maturity test – How old are you? If you are still a teenager, you are not likely in love, you are only being infatuated. True love comes with maturity. So, all those, “love affairs” in secondary schools are not of God because they are based on infatuation and lust, true love can only come from matured mind, unselfish and godly mind.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 70 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster.
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True Love Test
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