Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
Mark Bully
Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
1. DON’T PUT ANYONE BEFORE HIM OR PUT HIM DOWN Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
This is serious, a lot of women put their clergy before their men. Some their bosses, some their parents or even friends. I think many women don’t do it deliberately to spite their men. Many times they think the man will understand that it’s just church or the friend needs her or something. In order not to pick fights or appear petty, a man may ignore or put up with such situation but it always spells disaster as he’ll be silently hurting, resenting and losing his love and respect for you. Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
2. NEVER FLEX YOUR MUSCLE WITH A MAN Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
Whether verbally or physically, it’s always never a good idea to try physical strength with a man. Doing that has caused some women, physical harm and some their lives and either the men’s life too or prison. These may be extreme consequences but even when a man never hits you or have a verbal war with you, physical and verbal aggression toward a man will always make a man despise a woman sooner or later. Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
3. NEVER EARN HIS DISTRUST Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
‘I was charging my phone” or “the battery was dead” simple and innocent as these excuses may be to explain something’s away, you may be surprised how many times a man puts two and two together, know you are lying and out the windows goes his trust for you. Now think of ‘serious’ issues in which you are not straightforward or plainly lying and think the man doesn’t know. Once a man can’t trust you, forget respect from him. Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
4. NEVER CHEAT ON YOUR MAN Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
“But men cheat all the time. Right?” Well look at all history and all generations from kings to peasants, that’s what men do and the society even applaud us. I’m not saying it’s ok or opening a debate on that issue now. An unfaithful woman? I don’t think anything make a woman more despicable to her man, even if she remains his woman. This is a whole topic of it’s own but trust me on this, every man dreads his woman sleeping with another man. Men can’t handle even the thought it not to talk of if it happens and he knows it. Many a life have been lost due to women’s infidelity and even if the worst didn’t happen and the relationship didn’t end, count out love and respect from your man. Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
5. BE DECENT AND MODEST IN YOUR DRESSING Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
OK. We love those hot legs, butts trying to rip the cloth apart and half of the boobs and cleavages uncovered and like to feast our eyes on them covertly or openly and unashamedly, only little problem is we don’t like our women sharing hers with the public and the eyes of other men! Here in Africa, friends and family can vehemently oppose a man marrying a woman who is always indecently dressed. “Arh! What is this one saying? I shouldn’t dress nice again?” Single or married, by all means dress trendy if you like trends but dress nice, dress modest, dress decent and your man will respect you.
6. DON’T BE EXTRAVAGANT Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
It’s the pride of most normal and real men to provide the best they can for their loved ones but no man, even millionaires like a wasteful woman. I dare to say men, however thrifty or extravagant they themselves may be, like women who are prudent with money, whether it comes from him or her. Being wise with money will always earn you your man’s love and respect. Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
7. DON’T TRY TO TRAP A MAN WITH s*x OR PREGNANCY
Men like to be free. When we make decisions and get entangled, we like to think they are our decisions. If you use s*x to trap man, he’ll love every sense of respect or affection for you when the magic is no longer in the sex. Many a man have married a woman because she got pregnant for him but few of such women end up with his love or respect.
8. DON’T PLAY A WIFE ROLE TO YOUR BOYFRIEND
As much as men like to see qualities of a ‘wife material’ in a woman he is dating, don’t overkill and become his wife when he hasn’t married you. You may not understand when and why he gets tired of you and wants to run. He could feel like he is being manipulated for instance, or you could appear cheap. So create a balance in what you do and how much time you spend at his place if it’s a dating relationship Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
9. GIVE HIM SOME SPACE
In point no. 7 above, I said men like to be free. That’s absolutely true. Responsible men know where to draw the life between their desire for freedom and their responsibilities and will strive to do that. Let your man hang out with the boys and drink a few beers or watch their football game. Don’t nag about it and if you think he is over doing it, find a wise way of gently and patiently drawing his attention there but please don’t always breath down his neck. I do it, and many responsible men I know will always check in appropriately with their wives when they are away. Ten Ways to Earn your Man’s Love and Respects
10. BELIEVE AND HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF
It seems perplexing when men seem wary of successful or powerful women and seem to prefer ‘village girls’ and then don’t seem to respect the ‘village girl’ The truth is, men like confident and self-assured women. Yes, some men can seem threatens by successful or powerful women but that could be a function of the man’s confident or the fact that many women generally can’t handle power in their relationship. So believe in yourself, be confident, take charge and make some decisions alone that he expect you to be able to make and he’ll respect you for that.
Well, there they are; not exhaustive by any standard as every situation and relationship are unique and there will be more points put forward by others but you may find some of these points helpful, share them and help some woman today
