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AM TOTALLY TIRED OF MY HUSBAND,SHOULD I DIVORCE HIM?

June 7, 2016

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AM TOTALLY TIRED OF MY HUSBAND,SHOULD I DIVORCE HIM?
He is intelligent but not driven. He is outgoing but is rough around the edges in social settings. He rarely holds my hand, cuddles or kisses me beyond a peck hello or goodbye. We have sex less than 10 times a year, and that has been going on for 7-8 years despite my asking him how we could fix it. Recently I found out he has been taking care of his own needs with porn. If that were in addition to a great sex life I wouldn’t care. Instead it feels like it took away from our sex life.AM TOTALLY TIRED OF MY HUSBAND,SHOULD I DIVORCE HIM?

Our conversations are superficial. We can take a five-hour road trip and barely talk in the car on the way there. He isn’t interested. When we go out to party he binges drinks, becoming another person who often flirts with other women or seems not to be present in his own body. I have begged him on several occasions for this behavior to change and he has done nothing about it.AM TOTALLY TIRED OF MY HUSBAND,SHOULD I DIVORCE HIM?

On the flip side we share a common interest in my college football team, music, concerts, travel, food and more. We are true partners when it comes to taking care of the house and make all big decisions together. While our friendship is fabulous as far as going and doing our romantic life is obviously lacking. I know passion isn’t everything and it waxes and wanes throughout a marriage. But he has always lacked the ability to communicate and show affection. I guess when I married him at age 24 I didn’t realize how important a loving connection was to me. In fact our courtship was full of drama over these same issues.AM TOTALLY TIRED OF MY HUSBAND,SHOULD I DIVORCE HIM?

We have tried counseling. He says he can change the binging, but so far hasn’t. He says he can’t change his communication style. I can’t speak my mind, share a personal frustration or cry about something and expect his support. He shuts down. There are past substance abuse issues that concern me, along with his continued looking at porn. We don’t have children. We are 38 and 40. AM TOTALLY TIRED OF MY HUSBAND,SHOULD I DIVORCE HIM?

I’m so confused. I can’t imagine another 40 years without affection and communication. Am I expecting too much? –Annie
COUNSELLOR:
Hi Anne,
You are not expecting too much,it’s your right to be loved,adored and care for by your own husband.
But there is a missing link here,he or both of you lack a relationship with The Lord, He is not yet a Child of God, so the Prince of peace is far from the family. AM TOTALLY TIRED OF MY HUSBAND,SHOULD I DIVORCE HIM?
I will urge you to give your life to Christ as the first remedy and if you are children of God it’s time to pray. There is nothing God can not do if we can pray.
Get in touch with us for counseling sessions but you have to come with him,he seems to be the problem here though you are not innocent about the whole matter too, check our contact on the site and book an appointment.
If he has a mentor or friend who are having good marriage,you may talk to them if he refuses to come with you for counseling. They may have no clue of what is happening in your home and they can be of help. Talking to friends and family is not the best option but you may try it if there is no other thing to do.
I will also advise that both of you should enroll in a marriage school,there are many cases beyond counseling,you will need deep wisdom of family life which one or two counseling session can not give
I also advise you to get these four books Secrets of an irresistible wife and husband, Ten Commandments for wives and husband. I pray he can read the two books for husbands,while you read your own,I am sure God will take control in Jesus name.