THINGS TO LEARN, RELEARN & UNLEARN IN MARRIAGE
THINGS TO LEARN, RELEARN & UNLEARN IN MARRIAGE
-Bisi Adewale
THINGS TO LEARN, RELEARN & UNLEARN IN MARRIAGE: Learning is a life time ventures and you cannot afford to be complacent, you need to continue to update yourself and become better by the day. This is very important, because if you are not current, you can never be correct.MARRIAGE:THINGS YOU MUST LEARN, UNLEARN AND RELEARN
Proverb 24:3-7, Proverb 14:1
WHAT TO LEARN
There are lots of things to know, there are lots of things to develop. Never overlook them, go and learn them, they will make your marriage to be better than you ever imagined. They are:
- Somebody said, “Most marriages do get bad; mouth first”. If you can master the act of communication, you will be on top of all issues in your marriage. Think and talk right, get to know the “when”, “how”, “what”, “why” and where of communication. Use the right timing, right tone, right expression and win your spouse forever. Colossians 4:6
- Love Languages. Learn your spouse’s love languages and speak them. What makes him or her feel loved? What excite him or her? What can awaken boyish fantasy in him? You need to study the man or woman you marry.
Proverb 15:1, Proverb 15:23
- Family Finance. You need to become a family financial expert. You must master the art of making money legitimately. You must also learn how to manage your family finance rightly. Know about budgeting, savings, investment, and by all means improve your financial intelligence. Proverb 12:24, Proverb 31:13-22.MARRIAGE:THINGS YOU MUST LEARN, UNLEARN AND RELEARN
- You must learn the act of parenting. You must know that bearing a child is easy for any mature woman, but raising a child is another thing. Most mothers rear child; great mother train theirs. Proverb 13:24, Proverb 22:6.
- Relearn romance; learn to send good and romantic love messages to your spouse. Revive your boyish or girlish experiences. Make the home a place to be for him or her, let your spouse be happy that he or she married you.
Smile, laugh, play with him, sing for him, dress romantically just for him.
- Sexual Skill. Agreed you’ve being making love to your spouse since you married him, but you need to re-learn to stop all his or her complaints. There is something him or her want that he or she is not getting, give him, be more creative, be more available and be more terrific. Proverb 5:15-19.
WHAT TO UNLEARN
There are things you have learnt that you need to deliberately forget or do away with. These are things that can never make your marriage grow.MARRIAGE:THINGS YOU MUST LEARN, UNLEARN AND RELEARN
- Bad Characters. All characters that have made marriage difficult for you must be dealt with. Behaviours like anger, stubbornness, pride, laziness; nagging, etc must be done away with. Proverb 15:18.
- Wrong Information. All wrong things your friend have told you, every wrong thing you have learnt from your father or mother about men/women must all be dealt with.
- Habits Your Spouse Has Been Complaining About. Whatever your husband or wife has been complaining about must be unlearn. Things like nagging, laziness, slowness, burning of food, dirty sitting room, unflushed toilets, clothes on the chair, dirty and unkept children, unswept floor, failure to keep secret, etc.
- Wrong Attitude. Attitudes like volatile life (easily angry and ready to fight anybody at anytime). Olympic spirit, spirit of competition and contention with your husband or wife, uncaring and unloving attitude, hatred of your spouse’s family members, lack of hospitality and generosity, partying, extravagancy, stinginess, selfishness, etc.
- Constant Sexual Denial. Avoid denying him or her your body; learn to satisfy your spouse. Please it is totally wrong for a married woman to hate sleeping with her husband. Proverb 5:15-19
HOW TO LEARN
- Study the scripture about marriage.
- Read good books and magazines. Proverb 23:23
- Attend seminars and go for counsel. Proverb 24:6
- Move in the right company, any man or woman who does not talk positively about his or her own husband or wife should not be your friend.
- Listen to marriage tapes and attend conferences.
- Attend College of Marital Success. Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale
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THINGS TO LEARN, RELEARN & UNLEARN IN MARRIAGE.
