6 WRONG USES OF MICROSCOPE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
6 WRONG USES OF MICROSCOPE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
A microscope is a scientific instrument that makes small objects look bigger so that we can examine them more carefully.
You may be wondering what use a microscope is in a marriage.
A microscope is employed in marriage when we focus on things that are irrelevant but fail to give attention to things that are relevant. It is similar to a situation whereby you are conducting research on specimen A but you go ahead and put your microscope on specimen B for your research. I need not to tell you that you will get wrong results.
WHERE NOT TO PUT THE MICROSCOPE
- Never put it on your good deed, strong point and beauty:
“It is not good to eat much honey, so; for men to search their own glory is not glory”. Proverbs 25:27
The Bible says for you to talk and brag about your glory is not glory, it is pride.
Most men often talk about their strong points to spite their spouse. This uncomely act has created negative feelings in many marriages that is why I warn you against it.
STOP BRAGGING, “IF NOT FOR ME”, “YOU NEED TO THANK ME FOR THAT”, “I DID A NICE JOB THERE”, “I TOLD YOU IT WON’T WORK”, “I SAID IT”.
- Do not use it on your spouse’s weaknesses: Talking often about your spouse’s weakness will likely make the weaknesses look bigger than normal. Instead, make it a prayer point; do not weaken your spouse by talking about his or her weaknesses.
- Do not use it on your past mistakes: Talking often about the past mistakes of your spouse can easily destroy your marriage. A man was fond of referring to his wife’s sexual immorality which she carelessly fell into when she and her boss travelled on an official assignment. If the woman stays a little late in the office the man will say, “I don’t know if you have started with your new boss, like you did with your former one”. This continued for years after the mistake until the woman could not bear it again. She got frustrated and walked out of the marriage.
It was then the man realized his error, retraced his steps and begged the woman to return.
- Do not use it on what you have done for your spouse: If you have done good things to your spouse, that is good; but do not make an issue out of that. Marriage is all about doing good things for each other; there is no big deal about that. Do you help him pay the house rent? Have you not heard about a woman that built the house where she lives with her husband in the name of her husband and hers?.
You sponsored her through the university? And so what? Have you not heard about a man who resigned from his place of work so as to have sufficient time to take care of his sick wife?
Whatsoever you do in that marriage, do it for God and stop making noise about it, or telling anybody that cares to listen what you have done for your spouse. It is foolish and childish attitude. What have you done that others have never done before?
- Never use it on the past failures of your spouse: Stop talking about his or her past failures. It makes the failure to repeat itself and become a mountain to your spouse.
- Never put it on your errors: Let past be past. Do not be so attached to your past that you allow it to tie you down. Liberate yourself from your past and make yourself prepared for the future by making the most of today. Note that mistakes of yester-years are not big enough to stop the beauty of your greater tomorrow.
6 WRONG USES OF MICROSCOPE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
