Marriage Is Not A Battle-field

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Marriage Is Not A Battle-field

-Bisi Adewale

Marriage Is Not A Battle-field

Marriage Is Not A Battle-field-The first world war was fought between 1914-1918,while the second world war was fought between 1939-1945,more than 100 million military personnel was said to be involved in the second world war, while more than 50 million fatalities was recorded.Marriage Is Not A Battle-field
Today, third ‘world war’ is going on in many homes. I call it world war because it is taken place everywhere in the world. I want to announce to you that marriage is not meant to be a battle field but a place of love and care, in fact it suppose to be a banqueting hall, a place of love and romance.Marriage Is Not A Battle-field
In this piece i want to tell you how to avoid battles in your own marriage but turn it to a place of intimacy, high romance and love.
1.Put god first in your marriage; let God be number one in your marriage do not make him your guest, make him the land lord ,the owner of your life and home, put God first in all things you will be doing in that home, live for him, run away from unrighteousness
2.Change your mind; yes, change your mind ,think rightly, stop that stinking thinking about your spouse, think the right way ,think the GOD way, your state of your mind is the state of your marriage, change your mind.
3.stop the blame game; stop blaming your mate, it is a childish thing to do, do not condemn, do not criticize, stop pointing accusing fingers, you cannot make your partner better by accusing him or her, you can’t blame him/her and win the game of marriage.
4. Accept your spouse; your mate is the best for you, nobody force you to marry him/her, he/she is your choice, stop complaining, your wife is not too fat, not too slim look at her with a positive eyes , you will discover that she is very beautiful, if you do not accept your mate you won’t be able to love him/her, that is why you need to change your mind and celebrate the one you married.Marriage Is Not A Battle-field
5. Be mature enough to apologize; it takes maturity to apologize, most people are not that mature to say the most difficult word in English language, ’I AM SORRY’. If do not learn to say it your marriage will be in a sorry state, apologize like an adult ,stop behaving like a baby, turn your marriage around by apologizing, reconcile, call for ceasefire and stop the ‘war’
6.Sow the seed of love-do everything to tell your spouse that you love him/her, say it, act it, give gift, keep the flame of love glowing, marriage is a love affair.
7. Spend time together-deliberately create time to be together, do not allow the business and busyness of modern day life, take away your time together, you cant build a better marriage by staying apart.
8.Play together-play together like kids, crack jokes, laugh with each other, fight pillow wars, be creative about it; just play together.
9. Do things together; pray together, eat together, sleep together, play together, serve God together, bath together, and have passionate sex.
10.Communicate effectively; communication is the soul of all human relationship, become a communication expert in your marriage, learn the act of talking in love, create a good habit of intentional listening, speak the truth in love, do not abuse, do not tell lies, be a good partner.
11. Be a generous forgiver; you will definitely offend each other, no matter how much you claim to be in love, so learn to forgive and let go of your spouse, it is good for you and your marriage.Marriage Is Not A Battle-field
12.Be romantic; give room for romance, deep romance, kiss passionately daily, hug each other, play like children, never permit romance to die in your marriage.
13. Let sex be sexy; give room for good sex in your marriage, create time for it, be creative about it, be available, be willing. Give room for good and long foreplay and go in to sex with love and care, with deep pleasure for both of you in mind, always remember that sex is good in marriage and tit is for the pleasure of both of you.

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Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secrets of  an Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog:  www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter@bisiadewale