WONDERS OF TOGETHERNESS IN MARRIAGE
Bisi Adewale
Time and communication are the currencies of a great relationship. If you fail to invest time in your marriage, you can never reap the dividend of peace, love and joy. Time fruitfully spent together with one’s spouse is an investment and not a waste; it is a seed sown into the future.
Importance of spending time together:
-It propels the intimacy in marriage.
Without being together; you can’t be intimate
– It gives room for understanding each other.
– It helps to build trust.
– It helps to build unity.
– It eliminates suspicion.
– It nurtures love.
– It encourages romance.
– It aids communication.
– It helps to meet the emotional needs of each other
– It eliminates the third party
– It guards against adultery
– It helps to build a stronger marriage.
ENEMY OF TOGETHERNESS IN MARRIAGE
- The type of jobs. Jobs that keep us occupied all through the day, part of the night and the weekends are time-consuming jobs that can affect the relationship between couples.
- Television. The only time couples are together at home are mostly spent in front of the television. In most homes, television has become “another wife” for most men, taking them away from their wives. This cannot foster family intimacy.
- Children. If children, especially little ones and babies are not carefully handled, they will be a stumbling block to couples, preventing them from spending time together.
- Traffic. In most cities of the world, people spend hours on the road after the close of work before getting get home.
- Distance. Out of sight is out of mind. Once couples live far away from each other due to their jobs will experience a breakdown of communication, lack of trust, fear, infidelity, etc.
- Negative friendship. It is said that evil communication corrupts good manners. Friends who prevent you from spending quality time with your spouse should be avoided.
- Computer. Laptops, palmtops, and even desktops are becoming a nuisance at home with many people spending hours on the internet daily, giving no time for them to connect with their spouses.
- Lifestyle. Many couples spend most of their time on meaningless activities like clubbing, partying drunkenness, pornography, etc These activities take the better part of their time thereby affecting their family life.
© Bisi Adewale 2020
