TOUCHPOINTS FOR COUPLES
Please note that?
(1) Relegating God who ordained marriage in your home will open the door for the enemies to strike your family, be wise. Invite God afresh and rise in prayers and in unity to defend your union. Deal with the work of the flesh before it takes over your affairs and makes you carnal completely.
Seek ye the Lord while He may be found, call ye upon Him while He is near:
Isaiah 55:6 (KJV)
(2) Playing the blame game and seeing your partner as solely responsible for the problem in your marriage will not yield good results. Look inward too and check the areas suffering from challenges you have also contributed to. Then both of you should humbly make amends and move forward, it’s the way to grow.
(3) Exaggerating your spouse’s weakness to justify your life-threatening reactions and unimaginable display of negative emotions is detrimental to growth. It shows your weaknesses are even deadlier than you think. Handle matters with patience and maturity. Marriage is for mature minds, not for boys and girls.
(4) Shutting down and cutting off communication links in your marriage will not end the issue. You have to express your displeasure appropriately and maturely so that your spouse can know what your exact concerns are for the issues to be resolved amicably
(5) Updating outsiders about your misunderstanding with your spouse and reporting to third parties without the so-called offender (your spouse) in your house knowing his or her offence is a drama you should stop acting now. If you must grow in marriage, it is wrong to keep mute at home while you are busy acting as a ‘reporter’ outside
(6) Acting blindly and not celebrating the good side of your spouse is not good even after you have complained severally and thanked God that he/she has made efforts to change. You have refused to reciprocate your spouse’s effort and you have chosen to remain rigid and unyielding. Why not compliment the effort for the good and peace of your family?
(7) Giving excuses and not doing anything with your life or contributing to the progress of your family is a huge concern to your spouse. You have admitted that you are laid back and you believe things will sort itself out; it’s not good to continue with the act of irresponsibility, it will discourage your partner who is making effort. Marriage works better when the man is standing well as a leader and the woman is giving support as expected.
In conclusion, the importance and relevance of the fruit of the Spirit in our lives as Christians and our dealings in marriage cannot be overemphasized. When we begin to walk in the Spirit and exhibit the fruit of the spirit, your marriage and relationships will witness a turnaround and will benefit immensely from it.
Couples must pray for the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), they must allow it to grow in them and become part of them. The results will be amazing.
So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves. Galatians 5:16 (NLT)
May you enjoy your marriage and not keep enduring it in the name of Jesus
Thanks for reading and sharing.
© Yomi Adewale
