Sex And Marriage – Do You Need An Helper?


Sex And Marriage – Do You Need An Helper?
-Bisi Adewale

In a women conference, a woman complained that, her husband was too demanding, she stated that “It is sex, sex, sex, at night, and during the day. When will there be time for other things? I’m tired and I believe something should be done about it”. After a while, an elderly woman who has been married for more than forty years rose up and said, “I know the solution. If you feel something is too big for you to carry alone, the best thing to do is to look for a helper to assist you. The women present asked the elderly woman what she meant by “helper”.
What kind of helper was she referring to? The old woman said the helper could be your house girl, a girl in the neighbourhood, or his secretary. As reality dawned on them, the young women shouted, “We don’t need helpers, we can do it ourself, we are capable”. The old woman then told the gathering, “if you fail to satisfy your man, you may be looking for a helper to assist you”. The hall was dead silent while the woman continued talking. She said, “when you deny a man, remember there are some ladies out there who are using their bodies to beg your husband. If you fail him in the bedroom, other ladies may not fail him in the office. As for me, I am in my seventies but I still satisfy my “lover boy” of forty years sexually.
That is why he is looking younger despite the fact that he celebrated his seventy- eight birthday few months ago”. She then went ahead to tell them how she nearly lost her husband to strange women through carelessness in the early part of their marriage and how God used somebody in her husband’s office to leak the secret to her. She painted a picture of the battles she had to fight to win her husband back and keep him forever, by becoming a good wife and a “high performer” in the bedroom.
My question to you too is, do you need a helper? If you don’t, then get into action. Become a “high performer” in the bedroom, add fire to your sex life. It has been discovered that most wives improve in every area of their life except their sex life. This is very dangerous. May nobody help you love-feed your husband


Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert. He is the president of college of marital success. He has authored more than 40 books, a renowned international conference speaker and marriage counselor, the host of T.V program called family booster, and the set man of family booster ministry.

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