SEVENTEEN HABITS THAT SHOWS YOUR MARRIAGE IS NOT GREAT – Part 1
Sometimes, we do have a fake assessment of our marriage. Some think their marriages are doing very great, but the truth is their marriages are very poor and not progressive.
Here let us examine some habits in your marriage that shows it’s not great.
- YOU GO TO BED AT DIFFERENT TIMES
One simple thing, but very important, is the couple lying down to sleep together. You may have different work schedules and studies, but it is worth struggling to maintain this habit.
Sometimes the day is so tumultuous, that the only time the couple has to stay together, to know how each other’s day was, to hug and caress each other is bedtime. And it’s so good to sleep together with the loved one!
- YOU LOVE YOUR JOBS MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE
This is a bad habit. Your job comes first in your heart and you don’t care whatever happens to your spouse. You never remember that you will leave that office one day, no matter how good you are on the job.
- YOU HAVE TWO FACES
You are your best when at work laughing, jesting, and making everybody happy. However, you are something else at home. If your children take cover whenever you arrive at your home, it’s a sign that your marriage is not great.
- YOU FEEL AT HOME AT WORK BUT FEEL AT WORK AT HOME
You never wish to go home after work; you do feel at home at work, but your home is like a war zone to you; you detest it. If nothing makes you rush back home after work then something is wrong with your marriage
- YOU SLEEP IN DIFFERENT ROOMS
You have Daddy’s and Mummy’s room. You don’t sleep in the same room. No matter your reasons for it something is just not right in your marriage.
- YOU LOVE YOUR SIBLINGS AND PARENT MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE
Your siblings and parents come first in your heart. To you, they are more valuable than your spouse. It’s a sign that you are getting something wrong in that marriage.
- YOU LOVE YOUR CHILDREN MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE
It is common to see parents putting their children first in all situations, and loving them more than their spouse. This behaviour does not seem wrong, does it? But the truth is that this weakens marriage in a gigantic way.
At first, it was just the both of you. You both courted and married each other eventually. You were the most important people to each other. Then came the children, they grew up, and then started their own families too. This is how it shall be from generation to generation
The most important union we make in this life is in marriage. Your spouse should be the most important person to you. Your children are the fruits of your love, and in order for the fruits to grow and remain good, love must be nourished. When your children get married, it will be you and your spouse again, just as it was in the beginning.
- YOU TALK, BUT YOU DON’T DISCUSS
Everything is resolved through dialogue. At work, in the family, in social life and especially in marriage, everything is resolved through discussion and dialogue. When dialogue is missing, the discoveries will end, the misunderstandings will come and you will not be able to resolve issues because you simply did not talk.
You will have different goals and you will make different plans for the future because you do not dialogue anymore. Listen, speak, solve, meet the person who shares your life with you, this is indispensable for a successful marriage.