RIGHT WISDOM FOR CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER.
-Bisi Adewale
Instead of wrong wisdom that will end you up in matrimonial calamity, you need the right wisdom of God that is good, pure and generate desirable results.
‘’But we speak the wisdom of God in a mystery, even the hidden wisdom, which God ordained before the world unto our glory: which none of the princes of this world knew: for had they known it, they would not have crucified the lord of glory. But as it is written, eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him. But God hath revealed them unto us by his spirit: for the spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God. For what man knoweth the things of a man, save the spirit of man which is in him? Even so the things of God knoweth no man, but the spirit of God.’’(1 Corinthians 2:7-11) RIGHT WISDOM FOR CHOOSING A LIFE -PARTNER.
The wisdom of God we are about to talk about here cannot be found in romance novels, Hollywood, Nollywood, Bollywood or any wood for that matter, they cannot give it because it is wisdom from above which connect us to the shepherd of our souls who is able to take us to our green pasture our still water and nourish our souls.RIGHT WISDOM FOR CHOOSING A LIFE -PARTNER.
‘’The lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. (psalms 23:1-3)
- GET TO KNOW GOD THE MAKER OF MARRIAGE:
The wisest thing you can do as you try to choose a life partner is to know God the maker, manufacturer and founder of marriage. He has the monopoly power and wisdom to make your marriage work and your home a great place to be. Let him be your shepherd, he will lead you, he will correct you, and he will direct you.
This shepherd is our life and our light. ‘’in him was life; and the life was the light of men. And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness’ comprehended it not’’. (John 1:4-5) if you allow his life to enter into you, his light will shine on your way and give you joy in your matrimonial life as he direct you to the right path. The summary of everything is- you need God to make it in life and in marriage. When sheep abandon the shepherd you can guess what it result will be. So connect God he will give you rest.
IN ALL YOUR WAYS ACKNOWLEDGE GOD
‘’Trust in the lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the lord, and depart from evil. It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones’’. (Proverbs 3:5-8) RIGHT WISDOM FOR CHOOSING A LIFE -PARTNER.
Are you a Christian? Are you a child of God? If you answer yes to any of these two questions then you have no absolute right over your own life; God does. That is why the bible says, ‘’In all your ways acknowledge him….’ Proverb3: 6a.
Marriage is one of your ways. If you must acknowledge Him in ALL YOUR ways, marriage must be number one. Don’t choose without God, you will end up regretting it. Let the lord be the principal figure in your marriage decision making. If you do this, God will do one thing…. ‘’He shall direct thy paths’’. Proverbs 3:6b
If you put God first as you make decision, He will go ahead and order your steps and take you into a green grass and still waters and also restore your soul in marriage, that is, He will give you rest in your own matrimony and also lead you in the path of righteousness just to glorify Himself (Psalm 23: 1-3) RIGHT WISDOM FOR CHOOSING A LIFE -PARTNER.
God as the maker of men knows men inside out; he knows the intent of the heart as nothing is darken before Him. He knows the beginning from the end because He is all-wise God. Just acknowledge Him, you will be glad you did, don’t just take the decision the way you live, let Him glorify Himself in your life and the way your live, let Him glorify Himself in your life and your marital choice. Marriage is not just social relationship; it is a spiritual matter. It involves more than bodies, it involves body, soul and spirit. It was not establish by man, God Himself began it. ‘’And the lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him’’. Gen 2:18.since it is God that started it, it will take Him to direct you how to handle it, build and sustain it.
‘’Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep’’. Psalm127: 1-2
HOW TO ACKNOWLEDGE GOD IN YOUR MARITAL CHOICE MAKING
To acknowledge God in your marital choice making, you need to do the following:
- Surrender your life to him totally. Develop a personal relationship with God and become intimate with him.
- Pray to Him and hand-over your life to Him. Tell him to take over, tell him to lead you, tell Him to help you, tell Him you look up to Him.
- Listen to Him. Don’t just pray; listen to what God has to say to you.
- Reason with Him. Don’t just listen to God but REASON WITH HIM, obey Him. What he says may not really be what you like, it may not even look reasonable to you, just go ahead to reason with him and knowledge him, you will be glad you did.
- BECOME THE RIGHT PARTNER:
While the focus of worldly wisdom is about getting the right person, the focus of Godly wisdom is becoming the right partner, getting to become a better person in attitude, relational ability, character, manners, habits, service, sacrifice, love. You must make effort to become that special person you would desire to marry.
The question is: can you marry somebody that behaves like you? Will your habits and character be a plus and blessing to the person you married or a curse. If you try to be the best by improving and developing yourself and anybody you marry has work on himself or herself to be her best what will happen to your marriage if your connect in such a marriage? It will be awesome.
- Walk in love:
Instead of falling in love which worldly wisdom suggested, the focus of Godly wisdom is walking in love which is even the commandment of God. ‘’And above all these things put on charity, which is bond of perfectness’’. (Colossians3:14 KJV)
Walking in love is more than sending of flowers, holding of hands at the mall, it is by far deeper than that. It is about service, commitment and sacrifice. A person’s most useful asset in marriage is not a head full of knowledge but a heart full of love, an ear ready to hear and hand ready to help; that is what is known as walking in love.
It is not about getting, it is about giving. It is about meeting needs and making someone happy. It involves looking for who to love and how to love and the better way to express your love. God did not tell us to fall in love He commanded us to walk in love. So to have good home learn to walk in love and show affection to your spouse.
- CONNECT THE PERSON YOU KNOW YOU CAN SERVE:
Instead of looking for somebody that will serve you like movies suggested; get married only to somebody you can serve, somebody you can help, somebody that need you stretch out your hands to help instead of being a needy partner. You need to ask yourself as a man. Can I love this lady as Christ love the church? Can I love her like myself? Am I ready to bear with her weaknesses? Can I serve her? Dose she inspire sacrifices in me? Instead of asking yourself whether she is good in bed or not.RIGHT WISDOM FOR CHOOSING A LIFE -PARTNER.
As a lady, you need to ask yourself, can I serve this man? Dose he inspire submission in me? Can I make him happy? Can I bear with his weaknesses? Can I follow him like my head without complain? You must ask yourself these questions genuinely before you commit yourself into that relationship. Most people do ask wrong questions and they are getting wrong answers. RIGHT WISDOM FOR CHOOSING A LIFE -PARTNER.
- LET YOUR HOPE AND DREAM FOR FULFILLMENT BE BASED ON CHRIST JESUS:
Don’t ever think anybody will give you fulfillment in marriage, no, only Christ can do that and He can lead you to that man or woman that will make your life pleasant and pleasurable.
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