HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE BETTER THAN YOUR WEDDING
-By Bimpe Lawal
Marriage is so much more than just your wedding day. Wedding is just a day event while
marriage is a life-time reality. But it is a pity that many young people prepare so well about
buying the wedding gown, cake, food, shoes etc and plan less about whom they will live the
rest of their life with. The following will help to make your marriage better than your wedding:
? Always make your marriage a priority: – After God that instituted marriage; here comes
your spouse before any other thing even including your career and ministry. You can
always retire from the circular work and ministry at the age of sixty years, but you
cannot retire as a wife or husband . so do not ill your marriage today because of your
work and ministry, note that you will always come back home one day, so give it all it
takes to build a romantic marriage now.
? Spend less on your wedding to save your marriage:– A lot of people spend so much
money on a wedding which is just for less than twenty-four hours, they spend millions
of naira to feed people that are not hungry., they take time to plan for elaborate
wedding and close the entire street but fail to plan about marriage that is a life-time
affair. that is why the marriage hit the rock unexpectedly. Please take time to pray
together for every event that will happen in your marital journey like the house you will
live, the number of children, pregnancy period, wisdom for motherhood/fatherhood
and how to handle in-law matters.
? Understand the man you marry:- You cannot know him/her fully when you are courting.
In marriage the true picture reveal itself , learn to as questions, communication door
should be open and learn about the man/woman you marry so that you can adjust if
need be.
? Acceptance :- Accept the man/woman you marry and never compare your spouse with
another person. God has given you the perfect figure either he/she is tall, short, dark,
fair, and slim or fat. Accept him for that is your portion Ecc 9:9 “Live joyfully with the
wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of vanity, which he hath given thee under
the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour
which thou takest under the sun.
? Plan for motherhood/fatherhood:- One day you will become a mother or father. Learn
how to bear, rear and train up a child in the way of the Lord. Never be an absentee
mother/father. Do not delegate your responsibility to an uncle, niece ,nephew or
housemaid . Read books on parenting e.g Parenting without tears, parenting boys,
parenting girls etc all by Pastor Bisi Adewale
? Pray ceaselessly:- We suffer needless pain because we do not have a bended knees.
Take everything to God in prayer, he is the creator of your spouse so He knows what is
wrong and how to put it right, he is the porter, leave it for him to fix at all times
Lawal ‘Bimpe is a lecturer in college of Marital Success(CMS), a Marriage School of Family
Booster Ministries. She studied computer Science and happily married to Mr Gbade Lawal, their
union is blessed with wonderful three boys.
