Please Sir, He Love His elder Sister More Than Me.Can I Marry Him?
I have been in a relationship with a guy and we have even done our introduction but my challenge is that he has this particular Sister of his with whom he discusses almost everything, they are too close that at times before he tells me some things he would have told the Sister which I believe is not normal since I’m now in the picture. I have talked to him about it even before our introduction but nothing changed. Now we are very close to wedding but I feel like breaking the relationship because of what he did recently. Something happened to him that was meant to be our issue but instead of talking to me, as usual he told the Sister first and later told me but already made up his mind on what to do. I told him point blank that he has told his Sister and he didn’t deny it .So, I kept quiet. I just can’t continue being insecure, I need help please. (Note: They don’t have parent again so the Sister is the first born and he the only boy) He Love His elder Sister More Than Me.Can I Marry Him?
COUNSELOR: He Love His elder Sister More Than Me.Can I Marry Him?
I can understand how you feel and probably because you have told some people too and their opinion is making you to have a rethink. He Love His elder Sister More Than Me.Can I Marry Him?
This is one serious counselling issue that will affect marriage later if the man is still a baby tied to his Parent’s/Sibling’s wrapper. The truth is, this can go bad in marriage if not well handled now and you may be side-lined in your own home especially in this case where he is the only boy in that Family. He Love His elder Sister More Than Me.Can I Marry Him?
Let us take a cue from the Bible, Genesis 2:24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
The truth is one can wonder that even in the Garden of Eden then, it was only Adam and Eve without any parent but God had the future in mind and God knew the effect families who are third party in marriage could contribute to the union when he said the man should leave to cleave to his wife.He Love His elder Sister More Than Me.Can I Marry Him?
It is glaring in your situation that peradventure the mother is still alive, he would have been close to the mother but now his sister is taking that position which can hurt your marriage later.
If a one flesh Marriage is what you are aiming at; then from your courtship, it must reflect. You fiancé has to develop a mind of his own; ‘leave’ his sister and start showing that Cleaving before he will totally do it in marriage.He Love His elder Sister More Than Me.Can I Marry Him?
A true relationship leading to marriage must portray the intentions of God for the union. You must both confide in yourselves and build a very strong trust which is what your union will stand on. You must be each other’s best friend and communication must not be taken for granted .By now, you should be able to tell each other anything that will move both of you forward and even the home you are planning to build.
In-law’s issue at times can occur through something like this because if you force him to stop discussing intimate issues with his sister in marriage, the Sister begins to see you as taking her brother away from her. He is supposed to be matured enough and help you avoid this later by starting now. It is not too late to start though you’ve done introduction. Breaking up might not be the solution but discussing with him and taking a premarital counselling before wedding. Get in touch with a marriage Counsellor one-on-one so as to put you through.
You Shall Not Fail In Marriage in Jesus name.
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