Facts About Romance In Marriage
One major reason why most people find Romance difficult in Marriage is because they do not understand what it is. If you take your time to understand it, you will work more on it in your Marriage. A good Romance leads to a better Marriage.
To be romantic with your legally married Spouse is Biblical and righteous, in fact the whole Book of Songs of Solomon was written about a Romantic married love affair.
He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love. -Song of Solomon 2:4.
Isaac was caught romancing Rebecca his wife and it was recorded in the Bible.
And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife. -Genesis 26:8.
Romance is not only for the early part of Marriage, it is for life. In Song of Solomon 2:6, the Woman says; “His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me”. This is the early part of their Marriage. Romance is for life, don’t outgrow it, don’t allow parenting or any other thing to affect Romance in your Marriage.
Romance is intentional, it does not happen by chance or accident. You have to do it deliberately and keep doing it. Romance is all about connection. It is not to show off to people around you, it is about being connected and intimate with your Spouse.
You don’t need to jump from a helicopter, or swim across the Atlantic Ocean to show you are truly romantic. Romantic activities can be small or big. It can be as small as taking a stroll together, or as big as travelling together to another Continent. Romance need not be expensive, in fact romantic actions are not meant to be bank breaking. How much does it cost to hold hands, kiss, spend time together, or look at each other in the eyes?
Romance varies in Men and Women. What Women call Romance is quite different from what Men call Romance. When Men hear Romance, they think of bed, foreplay and sex. When Women hear Romance, they think flowers, chocolates, roses, beaches, horse riding, music, dates, hang outs, playing, gifts, Moon sighting, Sun bathing, holding hands, hugging, kissing and those things we call little. You need to know how the opposite sex sees Romance, in order to give your Spouse the best and make him or her feel more special.
You should understand that, Romance varies in Women too. You can’t use the knowledge of other Women in your life like your mom, sisters, female colleagues, or ex girl-friends, to know how your Wife
sees Romance. This will depend on so many things, like her background, age, values, beliefs, motherhood, education, religion, denomination, exposure, environment, personality, past love life, parentage, love language, and temperament. You see it can be so complicated if you don’t seek to know who she is and what to do. So ask questions, ask to know how she defines Romance. What can make her so happy and feel so special.
For Wives, ask your Husband the same questions above, you will get to know the heart of your Husband in the process. Romance is not sex or foreplay. It is by far deeper than that. It involves deep connection, love, attention and protection. It involves meeting needs, having fun and connecting. People have sex without love and affection. As a matter of fact, some do it for money and baby making.
Sex can be the peak of Romance. The truth is this, a very romantic Marriage will lead to a regular sex in your home and that kind of sex is often deep, intimate and explosive.
