CHANGE THE WAY YOU TREAT YOUR SPOUSE
Bisi Adewale
I do remember being taught Integrated Science at elementary school. My teacher taught us something I will never forget. He instructed some of us to fill a bucket with sand and plant various seeds. The class was locked down with cardboards save one window at the back.
A few days later, we went back to the classroom to see if our seeds had germinated. They did but the plants tilted towards the opened window. Our teacher explained to us that the plant was looking for the sunshine for photosynthesis.
People are like these plants. We are all known to bend towards whoever treats us with love, care, respect and move away from those that treat them with disdain. It is also like that for your spouse. If your husband gets good treatment at work only, you may realise that he stays more at work. If your wife gets good treatment from her friends and family, she may be spending more time with them on the phone while she is not even talking to you at home. It is a natural human tendency. That is why you must know how to handle your spouse well for a better marriage that you are looking for. So, change the way you treat your spouse and have a new home as he or she becomes a new being you’ve been looking for.
THE GOSPEL TRUTH
The way you handle your spouse will ultimately determine the state of your marriage.
HABITS TO CHANGE QUICKLY
- To be a better spouse and make him or her better, change the ways you treat your spouse and stop the following:
- Don’t take your spouse for granted
- Don’t display disrespectful attitudes
- Don’t be unfaithful financially.
- Stop being unloving, uncaring, difficult and terrible
- Don’t be boring. Some are so uninteresting to live with. They don’t laugh to jokes; they don’t even joke and play. It can be difficult living with a fellow like this.
- Stop being moody. Some are like rain clouds, always moody and sad for flimsy reasons.
- Don’t be bitter, learn to forgive. If you don’t but hold on to grudges for a long time, your spouse will suffer for it.
- Stop nagging. You can’t nag your spouse to submission, but you can nag your love out of his or her heart. Stop being a nag.
- Stop being ungrateful. Being ungrateful can be hurtful. Learn to be grateful for everything nothing is small.
- Stop being selfish. If you are selfish, why did you get married?
- Don’t be careless in talking, dressing, home management, etc.
HOW TO TREAT YOUR SPOUSE
Let me explain here how to treat your spouse:
- Like a Royalty: Treat your husband like a king and your wife like a queen. Make your spouse valued and honourable.
- Someone Special: Make your spouse feel special and peculiar. If you are a special person, then whosoever married you must be special. Treat him or her like that, people around you will do the same.
- Your Portion: Treat your spouse as your portion. The only one you have made for you.
“Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is THY PORTION in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.” Ecclesiastes 9:9 KJV
© Bisi Adewale 2020
