10 Things You Can Experience After Marriage part1
BY: RIYA ROY
10 Things You Can Experience After Marriage part1
The first year of marriage, like every ‘first’ in life, is extremely special, with its own joys and sorrows wonderfully intertwined. You have to nurture it with love, the way you nurture a plant to help it bloom to its fullest. You have to learn that though you have given each other your hearts, you cannot possess the other.
Love is nothing but the only magic that is innate to us. It is a spell that can be retained, if not strengthened, throughout the years of marriage. So, buddy, it won’t be very easy. It might even be very difficult. But if you work at it every single day, together, hand in hand, it will be completely worth your while. 10 Things You Can Experience After Marriage part1 10 Things You Can Experience After Marriage part1 10 Things You Can Experience After Marriage part1
Here are a few lessons that will tell you what to expect in the first year of marriage.
1. Terms of endearment
The greatest lesson is to accept your spouse for who they are. Trying to change everything about the other person to suit yourself is the biggest mistake you can make in your marriage. Companionship is all about tolerance and acknowledgement, the limit of which is something you have to judge for yourself. It is adjusting to someone who has had a completely differently life before you. Your partner, too, is trying to fit in to this institution, as alien to them as it is to you. Believe in your choice, your love, and actually celebrate the diversity. Life then becomes exciting. 10 Things You Can Experience After Marriage part1 10 Things You Can Experience After Marriage part1
2. Life as we know it (so far)
You might be childhood sweethearts, but it is during your first year of marriage that you learn the most about the love of your life. It is a different thing to meet the person in their best of spirits, but living with them even when they are not-so-adorable is something that you will have to deal with for the rest of your life. Remember that the same thing holds true for your better half as well! Learn to respect your partner – their choices, decisions, and as an individual. It is a bumpy ride indeed, but a very fun and thrilling one if you travel with the right attitude. 10 Things You Can Experience After Marriage part1
3. Knowing me, knowing you
It is surprising, but the first year of marriage teaches you a lot of things about yourself too. You will come face to face with your own strengths and weaknesses. You will try to put both of your perspectives into consideration and work as a team, while not compromising your individuality. You will learn not to retort – words are like arrows, once they leave the bow they can’t be taken back. This means your patience is sure to go up by leaps and bounds, if you are committed to make this relationship work and not abandon it midway. Both of you have to help one another to make this work!
4. You’ve got a friend in me
In the first year of your marriage, you will be drawn really close to each other, but on a different level – your friendship will be strengthened and reinforced like never before. You will learn how intimate your partner is to you, that they are the only one who matters, and that they are always there! Every day you will fall more for your partner, because they are going to be your strongest support and have your back always. They know what your experiences have been because they are going through the same thing. They love you exactly as much as you love them, and this means as much to them as it means to you. As Nietzsche put it poignantly, “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
