10 THINGS WHICH LOVE IS NOT
Here, I will be writing directly from one of my books titled: Pure Gold, to open your eyes to what true love is not.
(1) Love is not just a beautiful feeling – Real love is a commitment, it is more than just a beautiful feeling. A commitment is a choice that is backed up with actions. That you are having a beautiful feeling towards someone does not mean you are in love, it might be infatuation.
(2) Not a sexual urge – Sexual urge is not equivalent to love. Love is quite different from sex and vice versa. You can have sexual urge towards any member of the opposite sex but love is to that particular person God gives you grace to give your heart to.
(3) Love is not based on that lady’s voice or that guy’s bank account – If this is the foundation of your so-called “Love”, know that you are just being lustful and covetous.
(4) Not what you feel at first sight. You can be infatuated or be sexually moved toward somebody at first sight, but true love grows slowly with time. You cannot love somebody you do not know, you can only be infatuated with the person’s appearance, voice or gift, which may later grow to deep love or die.
(5) Love is not blind – Lust and infatuation may be blind but love is certainly not, if you are blindly in love; you are truly in lust. Open your eyes wide; if you think love is blind, marriage will open your eyes. Be careful.
(6) Salutation is not love• That brother moving closer to you may not be in love, know that a good friend may not necessarily be a good husband. That somebody is fond of you may not mean he loves you. Salutation is not love.
(7) Love cannot come from an immature mind• Infatuation is what often comes from an immature mind and not true love. It takes a matured mind to love sacrificially. So, all those secondary school boys and girls of ages between 15-19 that claim to be in love may be lustful but not truly in love.
(8) Love is not in haste• Love is never in a hurry to go into sex. It is ready to wait. TRUE LOVE WAITS, fake love hastes and makes one a waste.
(9) Love is not envious• What will make a man pour acid on a man he sees with his partner? It is not love but stupidity. What will make a lady to commit suicide when she is “jilted” by a guy? It is not love from God, it is madness
(10) True love is not without control – “I am so much in love that I cannot control myself” This is not a statement from somebody who is truly in love, true love puts one under perfect control. In fact, love is like bridle that controls a horse.
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Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter@bisiadewale
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