7 WAYS TO HAVE THE MARRIAGE OF YOUR DREAM
By Bisi Adewale
Having the marriage of your dreams is possible. All you need to do is to acquire the right principles and learn how to go about getting your dream marriage.
I want to show you here, easy and quick steps to having the marriage you have always dreamt about. If you can follow these principles, marital bliss is sure
1: INVOLVE YOUR SHEPHERD
The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. (Psalms 23:1-6 KJV)
? You can’t reject your shepherd and get to the green pasture in your marriage.
? You can’t neglect your shepherd and get to the still waters in your home.
? You can’t ignore your shepherd and get your soul restored in your family.
? If you abandon your Shepherd, you can’t get goodness and mercy in your house.
? If you want a marriage in green pastures, then get the shepherd involved in your home.
2: RIGHT FOUNDATION
If the foundation is destroyed, what can the righteous do? m KJV)
The foundation in any house is the strength of that house. If the foundation in any marriage is not alright then every attempt at making a success of that marriage will only end as a daydream. Build on the right foundation if you want to get the right result.
Your foundation must be based on the word of God and not on the philosophy of man that cannot stand the test of time.
3: ADEQUATE PREPARATION
There be four things which are little upon the earth, but they are exceeding wise: The ants are a people not strong, yet they prepare their meat in the summer; The conies are but a feeble folk, yet make they their houses in the rocks; :24-26 KJV)
If you are not well prepared for a successful marriage, it will show in your results at home. Your preparation will make your family life different as it will make you well equipped for better family life.
4: GET WISDOM
Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. (Proverbs 4:7 KJV)
? Wisdom that won a boyfriend cannot keep a husband
? There is a special way to handle a woman for a long lasting marriage, get it.
? Get wisdom for every stage of your marriage
? Increase wisdom about money in marriage, about intimacy, communication, parenting, sex, etc.
5: BREAK THE BRIDGE BEHIND YOU
Whoso keepeth the fig tree shall eat the fruit thereof: so he that waiteth on his master shall be honoured. (Proverbs 27:18 KJV)
? Never use the “D” Word
? Never Think or Talk of Divorce
? Be determined to make your marriage work because there is no perfect human relationship.
? Most marriages do get better with age if we can only be patient.
Confess it: IT IS MY MARRIAGE; I WILL MAKE IT WORK!
6: WORK TOWARDS BEING IDEAL PARENTS
Children in whom was no blemish, but well favoured, and skilful in all wisdom, and cunning in knowledge, and understanding science, and such as had ability in them to stand in the king’s palace, and whom they might teach the learning and the tongue of the Chaldeans. (Daniel 1:4 KJV)
Ideal Parenting involves:
? Parenting by Availability: Raise your children by being available to nurture them and make them know and serve God. You can’t raise godly children if you are never there for them.
? Parenting by Unity: Stand together with your spouse to raise extraordinary children. Speak with one voice in training, nurturing and discipline of your children.
? Parenting by Divinity: You can’t do it alone; your training, teaching and discipline is not enough; you will need to involve God. You will need to pray and hand over your children to God who will be there when you are far away because He never sleeps nor slumbers.
7: MAKE IT A BANQUET HALL NOT A BOXING RING
He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love. (Song of Solomon 2:4 KJV)
? Let there be togetherness.
? Don’t just see your spouse as a housemate; see him or her as a playmate
? Don’t just be husband and wife; be lover boys and girls
? Always know that Marriage is a love affair.
? Know that Sex I G d’s gift for the married. Do it with joy. Don’t fight about it. Let it bind you rather than separate you.
