7 REASONS YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW MIGHT HATE YOU
Bisi Adewale
Your mother-in-law is the mother of your husband, either she is good or bad she is part of your family life, if you handle her rightly you will enjoy her, if you don’t it may affect your marriage negatively and can even become a lifetime family problem.
- Envy
Some mothers-in-law do not enjoy what their sons’ wives are enjoying. This may make some of them be envious and this may lead to a bitter rivalry between wives and their mothers-in-law.
When Dicta’s mother-in-law visited them from the village, she was treated very well by the wife and she was given many things when she was going back.
But it was surprising when Dicta’s husband was summoned to come home two weeks after she (the mother-in-law) left.
On getting home, papa complained that he did not spend money like he used to do before he got married and they now knew the reason. Papa brought out a big bone to show him and told him, that his mother got it from the food she was served by his wife when she was with him. He said if somebody could be eating meat that had a big bone like this, he wondered how he would remember his parents in the village, then papa blamed Dicta for being extravagant.
What surprised me was that Mama did not complain when she was served. She did not say the meat was too big. She ate the meat and took the bone to her husband at the village. Wonders, they say, shall never end.
- Fear
Some mothers-in-law fear that their daughters-in-law would divert the attention of their sons from them and that he would not be in a position to cater for them again; hence, they make sure they create a lot of problems for the wife so that her husband may not love her.
- Your Behaviour As the Wife
Some wives are extremely bad. Their behaviour forces their mothers-in-law to hate them. Some wives are lazy, dirty, stubborn, proud, envious, unfaithful, etc. If you have a bad character, your mother-in-law can never love you. In a situation like this, the wife is to be blamed, not the mother-in-law.
The fact that your mother in law is an illiterate does not mean you should look down on her. She should be treated with dignity. If you do not love her son, she will not love you, and if you are unfaithful to your man, she will see you as a killer; hence, she will hate you, for she will want to protect her son.
- Childlessness
If a marriage is unfruitful, it is very common to blame the wife for it. They may say she is a desert. Nobody will ever blame a man for it. This is another reason some mothers-in-law hate their daughters-in-law, especially in Africa. I pray for every waiting mother, the Lord will bless you with your own children.
- Ignorance
Some mothers-in-law do not know their position. They believe their sons’ houses are theirs and think that they are entitled to everything there. This often causes clashes between them and the wives who on their own part will want to prove that they are the owner of the house.
Likewise, some of our old parents do not really understand the kind of relationship that exists between the present-day husband and wife, forgetting that things have changed drastically compared to their own old days.
- Excessive Love For Her Child.
Some mothers-in-law are too close to their sons, hence, it is always very difficult to break this type of relationship when their sons get married. Such mother-in-law may see the young wife as a threat. With God, all things are possible. By trusting in the Lord any young woman facing this predicament would be delivered.
- Hatred
Another reason your mother-in-law may not really like to see you maybe her personal hatred towards you. She might not be favourably disposed to her son marrying you. This could be attributed to differences in tribe or background. It may not necessarily be because of your behaviour.
Conclusively, No matter what the reason may be, you must behave yourselves wisely. Your mother-in-law has little or nothing to lose, for her son can never divorce her. It is you that may lose your home. Hence be careful, be watchful and be prayerful, you will surely win in Jesus’ name.
© Bisi Adewale 2020
