Bisi Adewale

Romance is a continuous activity that encourages love, intimacy, feeling of excitement or feelings of being in love.

Dear wife, don’t ever allow the girl in you to die! Be a romancer; wake the boy in your husband. Most African women complain that their husbands are not romantic. Especially if you compare what they did during courtship, how by all means convince the woman to love them, with what they are doing now in their marriages you will be shocked. Most women assuredly say, their husband did not love them again. But one of the things most wives do not understand and realised is that romance is what you give, it is not what you wait for. It is like a hug when you give one you receive one. If you want a romantic husband then be a romantic wife.

You can do the following things to become more romantic in that marriage and make your husband happy and feel loved.

  1. Be playful. One of themajor need of man from research in every sample of husbands all over the world is the need to have their wives as their playmate or as their recreational companion. Always remember that THE COUPLE THAT PLAYS TOGETHER STAYS TOGETHER. Be your husband playmate; try to love what he loves. My wife developed an interest in football because of my interest in football; I even played for my school in my secondary school days. Love his games; love his hobby, because what makes him happy will make you happy. 
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Men tend to enjoy and love those that they play with than people they work with, that is why they hang out with their friends than be with their wives.

  1. Create time for him.Traditional wives will take care of their children and job first, then if they have any time left; they can attend to their husband. This is not okay; this can not win your husband for you. Share activities with your husband, share your opinion with him, play with him, yes be his playgirl, his friend, make his day. Create time to be with him, just the way you would if he is still your boyfriend.
  2. Make it a verbal romance.Say sweet and romantic things that will stir up his emotions to love and addicted to you.e,g say ‘I love you’, I value you’, etc
  3. Be a texter. Send romantic text messages to him; make it your habits go ahead do it.
  4. Respect him. He can never be romantic with you if you disrespect him.
  5. Be a hugger.Make it your habit to hug before going to work and when he returns, as little as hug look it can turn your marriage around.
  6.   Feet washing. If he spent a lot of time working on his feet during the day going up and down to provide for the family, you as the wife is expected plan a special feet washing session for him to make him feel relax being home, you can even make it your habit. Use sacred water with a warm towel to dry his feet and you can then use lotion to rub the feet, you will make his day.
  7.   Be a kisser. Enjoy kissing him with all pleasure in your heart. e.g good night kisses, goodbye kisses or welcome peck, a deep romantic kiss when you are alone, you can’t turn your marriage around with your tongue, lips and your cheeks.
  8.   Ask him out, foot the bill. Give him a threat, date him, he is still your boyfriend, get him off his feet.
  9. Smile always See him off in the morning with a smile; wear a smile when he is back. It can become your habit.
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11.Perfume option. Always put on good, nice and romantic perfume all for him.

  1. Back issue. Help him to scratch his back, men enjoys it.
  2. Dress for him. Have him behind your mind as you dress, dress to make him happy.
  3. Dress him. Help him to dress up as he prepares to go out end the “dress issue” with a kiss.
  4. Undress him. As soon he returns home from work or an outing, helps him remove his jacket, shirt, shoes, socks, etc.
  5. Encourage him to dress you. Tell him to choose your cloth for you, to help hook up your bra. Help zip up your skirt and assess your dressing.
  6. Special meal. Cook his special meal for him, just to make him feel loved.
  7. Honour. Be humorous by cracking a good and positive joke with him.
  8. Laugh to his jokes. Laugh to his jokes, even if you’ve heard it several times.
  1. Love notes. Put love notes in his pocket or bags as he travels.
  2. Gift action. Give him a gift, small or big but thoughtful gift. Buy his pants, socks, trousers, shoes, belt, cuff links, singlet, shirts, etc.
  3. Be on the line. Call him just to ask for his welfare.
  4. Be vulnerable to him. be flexible to follow him for any occasion if he requested it and this might make his day.
  5. Give card and flower. You can still do this to pass your message of love across to him. 
  6. Work action. Walk to him in the public if you are sitting in different places bet across each other
  7. Be creative. Do something new, just be creative.
  8. Be unpredictable. Don’t allow him to be able to predict what you will do next, always surprise him.
  9. Walk in the evening hand in hand with him.
  10. Mail him. Send romantic e-mail or letter to him, he is not just your husband; he is your boss.
  11. Re-set the seats in your house for him.
  12. Re-decorate your house just for him.
  13. Bath option. Make it your habit to bath with him especially in the evening or weekend.
  14. Dance with him.
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  2. Massage his body. Once in a while; massage his body after a very busy day for him.
  3. Pursue him sexually. Yes go ahead sleep with him, don’t wait for him to sleep with you. Get our book titled Secrets of an Irresistible Wife.
  4. Ask him. Ask him how he will love to be romanced then go ahead do whatsoever he says; make God happy by building a better love with your husband.


© Bisi Adewale 2020


  1. Thanks so much sir for this insightful piece. How can I get your books (the irresistible wife and husband) sir?

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