51 REASONS TWO GOOD PEOPLE CAN MARRY AND HAVE BAD MARRIAGE
By Bisi Adewale
Deji and Rosa were both Fellowship Leaders on Campus, they serve God with all their hearts and was used of Him on Campus. Deji served as the President of the 600 Members Fellowship for two years, while Sister Rosa as people used to call her served as the Sister Coordinator of the same fellowship for two years also.
When started dating each after their graduation everybody thought it was a match made in Heaven not until two years after their Wedding when they had to separate because of constant fighting and bitter fights, nobody saw this coming.
Two good people can get married and have a very bad marriage. I have seen this played out severally. Two people will be very good at work, in Church, society and in the extended family. If you see them coming together in marriage, you will say, this is Match made in heaven, but few Months into their marriage, you will see them fighting endless battles that nobody wins, what do you think could cause this? Many things can cause it, let me show you 51 of them here.
1: lack of knowledge of marriage and handling of opposite sex
2: lack of understanding of each other
3: Impatience with each other differences
4: lack of understanding what marriage is all about
5: Selfishness and self focused, everybody is looking to have hi to her own way
6: Interference of outsiders in marriage
7: Financial pressures
8: Absence of work life balance
9: Wrong expectations of what marriage should be
10: Lack of good management of In laws
11: Absence deep love for each other
12: Carelessness about preserving the love that brought them together
13: Lack of effective communication
14: Not sharing the same values
15: Not sharing the same kind of life styles.
16: Taking each other for granted
17: Competition in marriage
18: keeping secrets and Lack of transparency
19: Getting hooked on Phone and Social media
20: Absence of good preparation for Marriage
21: Not handling misunderstanding rightly. Fighting dirty
22: Absence of the fear of God
23: Wrong mentality about Women/Men, Sex, In laws, Money, Marriage, romance and Love.
24: Lack of intentionality about Marriage, love, sex and romance in marriage.
25: Wrong thinking about marriage
26: Wrong thinking about opposite sex
27: Wrong thinking bout sex and romance
28: Failure to break negative patterns from childhood
29: Failure to break evil patterns from Parents
30: Wrong custom and cultural practices
31: Wrong religious practices
32: Absence continuous growth
33: Been to close to opposite
34: Not breaking relationship with Ex
35: Wrong priority
36: Bad habits practices
37: Failure to manage stress rightly
38: Focusing Children or Jobs neglecting spouse
39: Not spending time together
40: Negative conflict management system
41: Demonic attacks on Marriage
42: Pride, stubbornness and arrogance
43: Failure to show love and affection
44: Failure to spend adequate time together
45: Hatred of sex and sexual relationship
46: Failure to be loyal to each other
47: Failure to care for each other
48: Failure to support each other
49: Failure to build United front together
50: Failure to spend time with God together
51: Failure to give room for God in the Marriage.
