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5 WRONG WAYS TO HANDLE IN-LAWS IN MARRIAGE

September 10, 2016

1952

By Bisi Adewale

In-law management is a very important thing you must know if you want to enjoy your marriage. There are 5 wrong ways to handle in-laws in marriage, you will find it so difficult to get the good pleasure
Let me discuss with you here wrong ways to handle your in-laws:
1) FIRE FOR FIRE: returning fire for their fire will never help you, don’t do it. Don’t declare war on them, they are part of your spouse’s history.
2) COLD WAR: Some will not fight outrightly but will not be at peace with them. This is also very wrong
3) TOTAL ABANDONMENT: Many do make their spouses abandon their parents and family, this is also dangerous.
4) SPOUSAL WALLING: Some do mount a ‘wall’ around their spouses, block all avenues from which families can reach them
5) MARRIAGE HANDOVER: this is when you hand over your marriage for your in-laws to control it. You give them free access to everything in your home.
This you do by the following ways:
— When you have to contact in-laws before you take any decision
— When they are the one paying all your Children school fees and your house rents
— when you report your spouse to in-laws
— When you live in the family house
— When you rely on family Members for sustenance.
These will definitely backfire later
Learn to handle your in-laws with wisdom, patience, positive thinking, understanding, love, provision, consideration, and tact.
You can’t run away from in-laws but you can manage your relationship with them wisely, they may not help you to build your marriage but they can ‘help’ to destroy it if you are not careful.