22 Reasons Never to Sleep With Any Other Woman Except Your Wife
(Pay attention to points 3, 14, 17, 21, and 22)
By Bisi Adewale
The Story That Should Break Your Heart
Tunde was a respected man successful in business, active in church, admired by many. He had a loving wife, Dupe, and two beautiful children. From the outside, they looked like the perfect family.
But everything changed on a business trip to Port Harcourt.
Lonely, tired, and under pressure, he accepted a colleague’s invitation to “relax” with some women. He told himself it was just once. But once turned into twice, and then many more times. He believed he still loved his wife after all, he provided for her, right?
But then, he brought home more than guilt. A strange illness. A terrifying discovery. A confrontation. A broken woman. And a shattered home.
Dupe cried like a widow the day she found out—not because her husband had died, but because the man she gave her heart to had betrayed her in the most devastating way.
Tunde didn’t just lose his health. He lost trust. He lost peace. He lost his family. And the day he stood by the gate watching his children drive away with their mother, he finally understood:
No moment of pleasure is worth a lifetime of pain.
In my 26+ years as a marriage clinician, I’ve seen many men destroy their lives, marriages, careers, and children’s destinies for fleeting pleasure. Like Tunde, many are ruined chasing what doesn’t exist.
Dear brother, I want to speak to your heart. Let’s journey through this together.
22 Reasons Never to Sleep With Any Other Woman Except Your Wife
1. It breaks the sacred covenant of your marriage.You didn’t just exchange rings—you exchanged lives. Infidelity shatters that holy vow you made before God, your spouse, and your community.
2. It wounds your wife in a way words cannot explain. Her soul will feel the blow. Her heart may never fully recover. She may learn to smile again—but a deep part of her may never heal.
3. It invites shame to take root in your life. Even if no one knows, your soul will know. Guilt will hunt you in silence. Shame will steal your confidence, your peace, and your connection with God.
4. You become a man of secrets and shadows. Infidelity forces you to lie—to your wife, your children, your church, and even to yourself. You live in hiding, always watching over your shoulder.
5. You risk diseases that could harm both you and your innocent wife. It’s not just about sin—it’s about safety. One reckless night can bring infection, pain, and even death into your home.
6. You may lose the love and respect of your children. When they find out (and they often do), the damage is deep. Their trust breaks. You stop being their hero. And sometimes, their hearts close forever.
7. You destroy emotional and physical intimacy with your wife. Sex isn’t just physical—it’s spiritual. Adultery severs that bond. She may not know what’s wrong, but she will feel the disconnect.
8. You disobey God’s command. “Thou shall not commit adultery” is not a suggestion. It’s a warning from a loving Father who wants to protect your future.
9. You dishonor your own body. You were made to carry God’s glory—not to be used as an instrument of betrayal. When you sin sexually, you sin against your own soul.
10. You hurt the soul of the woman you’re cheating with. Many of these women are already broken. Rather than healing them, you become another scar in their story. Another pain they must carry.
11. You open the door to generational curses. What you do in secret may echo for generations. Your sons might walk in your footsteps. Your daughters may end up hurt by men just like you.
12. You lose spiritual power. Sin drains authority. Your prayers weaken. Your faith wavers. You can’t fight demons in public while entertaining them in secret.
13. It can cost you your finances. Affairs are expensive—hotels, gifts, gadgets, cover-ups, hospital bills, secret children, even blackmail. And if divorce follows, the cost multiplies in cash and heartbreak.
14. You will eventually be exposed. It only takes one mistake—a message, a screenshot, a voice note, a payment, or an angry partner. Even if no one exposes you, God will. What’s done in the dark always comes to light.
15. You create permanent emotional scars. Even if your wife forgives you, the pain may linger. The relationship may never return to what it once was.
16. You damage your wife’s confidence. She begins to question herself: Am I not enough? What did I do wrong? Her self-esteem may suffer deeply, and sometimes permanently.
17. You teach your sons how to hurt women. Your example becomes their instruction manual. Your weakness becomes their excuse. You’re not just cheating on your wife—you’re cheating your sons of a better legacy.
18. You show your daughters the kind of man not to trust. She will either fear men, or worse, she’ll be drawn to men like you. Either way, her ability to trust gets shattered.
19. You forfeit divine favor. God’s favor flows on the path of obedience. When you cheat, you step out of that path—and blessings stop flowing.
20. You reduce yourself to a moment, not a man. You were created for greatness, for honor, to lead with strength. Adultery shrinks you down to a body, a shadow of who you’re meant to be.
21. You risk your eternal destiny. Jesus said, “Whoever looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Without repentance, you risk your soul. Is she worth your eternity?
22. You exchange everything for 8 seconds of pleasure. Science says the peak of sexual pleasure—orgasm—lasts no more than 8 seconds. That’s what men lose everything for:
Your money, integrity, peace, home, children, joy, future, vision, ministry, angels, God’s presence, and even heaven—all for 8 seconds? That is crazy!
Dear brother, it’s not worth it. Not today. Not ever.
What You Should Do Right Now
If you’re thinking of cheating, stop. If you’re already in it, run. If you’re free, stay free.
No woman outside your marriage is worth your honor, your family, your future, or your eternity. Fall in love with your wife again. Choose her every single day. Protect her heart. Protect your children. Protect your destiny.
Say NO to cheating. Say YES to faithfulness. Say YES to love that lasts.
Two Things You Can Do For This Generation
1. Get Help: If you’re struggling with infidelity, or you’ve been caught and want real change—not just an apology—join our Infidelity Recovery Program. We can walk with you toward healing. Chat with us now: +2348068312004
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? Bisi Adewale
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