19 IDEAL WAYS TO HANDLE THIRD PARTIES IN YOUR MARRIAGE WITHOUT CAUSING TROUBLE
Bisi Adewale
According to experts, a third party is a person or group besides the couple, involved in a situation, especially a dispute. He or she can be either of the couples’ family members, friends, co-workers or neighbours.
A third party is considered an interloper because they have the power to destroy the home.
Who Are the Third Parties?
– Parents of the husband or the wife
– Your children
– Your siblings
– Neighbours
– Colleagues
– Business partners
– Mentors
– Protégées
– Housemaid
– Employer
– Employee
– In-laws
– Church members
– Relatives
– Anybody apart from your spouse is a third party.
EFFECT OF THIRD PARTIES IN MARRIAGE Prov. 16:28
Third parties as previously mentioned can negatively influence the home in the following ways:
– They take side with one of the partners to fight the other.
– They enjoy it when the couple fight
– They cause disunity and separation
– They tell lies and spread rumours to destroys the marriage Prov. 16:28, 17:9
– They can feather their net when couples are not in good terms, hence they do everything to cause quarrel at home.
– They can cause deep hatred within couples who were happily married
– They can become a financial burden to the couple
– They are not always appreciative, no matter what is done for them
– They make marriage difficult for the couples
– They destroy families through diabolic means.
HOW TO HANDLE THIRD PARTIES IN MARRIAGE Gen 2:24-25, Psalm 45: 10-12
- Do not allow them to come in between you and your spouse
- Stand as one, stand in unity
- Never report your spouse to them, it is a way to give yourself or your spouse to them
- Present cases of third parties to God in prayer
- If you must fight, do not fight in their presence.
- Let them know that you love your spouse
- Defend and protect your spouse before them.
- Be careful to bring them to your house
- There must be rules and regulations for any one of them who wants to stay with you.
- Anyone who causes disharmony between both of you must go.
- Love your spouse deeply, more than anyone of them
- Give them what is due to them
- Pray seriously before you allowed any one of them to stay in your house.
- Never dishonour or disrespect your spouse before them
- Do not expose your spouse weakness to them.
- Appreciate your spouse generously in their presence.
- Stand in unity, don’t allow them to come between you.
- Help your family members within your capacity but limit their influence on you.
- Let there be open communication between you and your spouse, don’t listen to rumours.
© Bisi Adewale 2020
