21 WAYS TO RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND TO EARN YOU MORE OF HIS LOVE
By Bisi Adewale
“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife sees that she reverence her husband.” Ephesians 5:33 KJV.
You can’t be united with a man you don’t respect and submit to. Two drivers can’t drive a bus; the other has to be a conductor. Even if the conductor can drive better, he has to respect the judgement and leadership of the driver, even if he is the owner of the vehicle.
Below are 21 ways to Respect your Husband to earn more of his love
- Respect is manhood:Make him feel like a man, praise his strength and his wisdom, make him feel like the strongest and the wisest man in the world, boost and massage his ego, hail him as the king of the house, every man will love to receive this from his wife.
- Respect his judgment: Respect his decisions; let him know that you rely on him to take vital decisions, avoid arguing with him or questioning him unnecessarily, and let him feel that his opinions count.
- Respect his abilities: Belief that he can do what he said he planned to do, encourage and motivate him, don’t put him down, don’t doubt his ability.
- Respect him in failure: It is easier to respect a man when he succeed when he conquer the world and become a champion, but most wives do find it difficult to respect their husband when they (husband) fails. Don’t withhold respect from him because he fails no! He is not a failure because he fails, in fact, he is a champion for trying, the real failure ones are those that fail to try, so respect him despite the failure. When a man knows that his wife will respect him either he fails or succeeds, he will not be afraid to try.
- Respect in communication: Your word can build or tear down your husband. Speak to your husband in respectable ways and manner especially when you are angry or he makes you sad.
- Respect his family: Don’t ever abuse members of his family even if he does that himself, men do have a special place in their hearts for their families.
- Respect him in success: When you are instrumental to his success, don’t praise yourself, praise him, return the glory to him, celebrate his success no matter how ‘small’ it looks.
- Respect him with your action: Your actions and reactions will show that you respect him, do not walk out on him in anger, don’t slam the door on his face, don’t shout on him and do not nag or fight him.
- Respect him in secret: When you are alone with him still give him his respect, when you are talking intimately or joking; never say things that will make him unhappy.
- Respect him in public: No matter what he did wrong; never shout on him, abuse him or say anything that can make him feel disrespected, rather praise him in the public.
- Respect his leadership: Trust him for good leadership, follow him with love, be a good follower, let him be the head.
- Respect him in his absence: Most women respect their husbands when their (husband) are there but are found of talking evil and ill of their husbands, in-laws, marriages men when their husband is not there; this is not alright, it is a sign you are not respecting, it is disrespectful.
- Respect him when he makes mistakes: You warned against taking that action but he went ahead to do it, the venture eventually fail, the greatest mistake you can make at that period is to say “I TOLD YOU, I WARNED YOU, ‘I KNOW IT WILL FAIL, I SAW IT COMING”. It will be disrespectful to say any of these, despite his mistake; you must still respect him and seek ways of correcting the mistake without blaming him or making feel bad about it.
- Respect him the way you reject his sexual advances: He is your husband, your body belongs to him, he has right on your body, he can have sex with you anytime anybody. But your body is not a machine; you may not feel like having sex when he demands for it, this you must do in such a way that will not hurt his pride or affect his ego. Don’t just turn your back to him and say “is it food?”, “you did one yesterday”, “you want to kill me”, “All you know is sex”, “Don’t you think about any other thing”.
All those are disrespectful and totally wrong. You should learn to reject his advances positively and respectfully. I think you should get our best-selling book: SECRETS OF AN IRRESISTIBLE WIFE, in the book, my wife and I devoted a whole chapter to “how to say NO! to your husband sexual advances without hurting him”.
- Respecting in parenting: Respect his parenting style, when he disciplines the children; do not oppose him even if you do not really support his style do not oppose him before the children.
- Respect his friends: Do not disrespect his friends even if you discover they have been bad influence in his life, if they know that you hate them they will influence your husband the more to work against you, to treat you badly or even have affair. Do not fight his bad friends physically.
- Respect him before his friends and yours: Let his friends and yours know that you respect your husband it will add value to you and him, most especially to you.
- Respect him when he behaves foolishly: He may behave childishly, he may annoy you, you may not be happy with him, but be very careful, do not remove the veil of respect in anger it will work against you, do not allow your respect foror him base on what he does or fail to do base it on the word of God.
- Respect him by keeping his secret: Everything you are privilege to know due to your strategic position and his wife is not for public consumption it must be kept secret, it is a high level of disrespect to reveal your husband secret to your friends or family members.
- Respect him on phone: Never bang phone on him, no matter how mind you are with him, don’t ever fail to pack his call. When he calls you; talk to him with love and respect, do not say “what do want again?”, “Talk quickly am busy here!” go straight to the point”, etc. Reverence him the way you talk to him and you will not fail to get his attention
- Respect him by obeying him: One good way to obey him in as much as what he asks you to do is not against the word of God. Obedient is the first course in the school of submission in marriage, you can’t be disobeying your husband and think you are respecting him, no, to submit and respect you need to obey.
© Bisi Adewale 2020
