UNDERSTANDING YOUR SEX DRIVE
Bisi Adewale
As a young man or woman grows into adulthood, he or she becomes aware of a powerful force in the body which seems to take control of his/her young life. This force is known as SEX DRIVE.
Though there is nothing evil or sinful about the sexual drive because that is the way we are made by God to fulfil His purpose of multiplication and fruitfulness.
This drive must be controlled. Failure to control it will lead to a lot of problems and consequences.
While a man is stimulated by what he sees, a lady can only be stimulated by what touches her or by, what she hears. That is, to say a man may be ready for sex by merely looking at the picture of a naked lady while that kind of a thing cannot make a normal lady ready for sex.
– Guys are aroused quickly while girls are aroused more slowly.
– Guys have stronger sex drive than girls. Girls have a lower sex drive. This is their protection from a run-away situation.
– A guy can sustain sex urge for a long time while a girl maintains it only for a few moments.
– Girls think more of romantic love, someone to hold close and give them warmth, affection and security. Girls wouldn’t think of having sex with a guy unless she feels she loves him and he loves her. While guys think about sex rather than love, they want to satisfy their sexual desire first, then anything can follow.
– Girls may not be able to enjoy sex with somebody they do not love while guys can sleep with anybody (anything in a skirt) and enjoy it even if they do not like the person at all or if the person is a total stranger or somebody they hate.
LEARN TO CONTROL YOUR SEX DRIVE
– Girls should learn that they can only be aroused through touch and should not allow guys to touch their sexually sensitive parts like breast and thigh.
– Girls should know when a man says “I love you”, he does not really mean he does. He may be saying, “let me have sex with you”. Get more of this from my book “Pure Gold”.
– Guys that want to keep themselves pure should keep away from pornographic pictures, sexual films, etc.
– You can also control your sexual desire only if you give yourself to Godly source word of relationship and marriage and that is why I will like to introduce to you an institution of marriage and relationship called COLLEGE OF MARITAL SUCCESS.
MISTAKES YOU MUST NEVER MAKE ABOUT SEX DRIVE
Never think sex is nothing but a physical act to be enjoyed with whoever you want and whenever you want it. Sex is more than physical; it is a sharing of body and soul and it has lasting effects on one’s life.
Never think sex is the only way to express love. Sex is not everything; life is more than sex. Sex is based on life but life is not based on it. Truly, f sex is important but if it is not controlled, it can destroy destiny and other good things of life.
Never go for sex outside marriage. The consequences are too many. Wait for your time and stick to your spouse after marriage.
Control your sex drive; you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you (PhiI4:13).
© Bisi Adewale 2020
