THE POWER OF CHOICE
THE POWER OF CHOICE
By Bisi Adewale
The effect of choice in any marriage is very important because what builds a marriage is the foundation on which it was founded.
- Our life is the total sum of our choices.
- Your choice determines your chance.
- God must be involved in our choices if we must live in peace.
- Our choices must be prayerfully made.
- There are three important choices in our lives that must be made with care:
(a) The choice of whom to serve- (salvation) – God or devil?
(b) The choice of whom to marry.
(c) The choice of what to do (career).
- Marital choice must not be based on lust, pity, beauty, money, position, success, selfish motives, wealth etc.
- There is that God’s perfect and destined partner for your life (Gen 24:12-14)
REQUIREMENTS FOR CHOICE MAKING
Before you think of choosing a life partner, you must put the following things in place:
- GENUINE CONVERSION– you must be genuinely converted, you must be truly born again.
- YOU MUST BE FILLED WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT: Baptism of the Holy Ghost is a must if you want all your choices to be directed by God.
- PRAYER- you must be prayerful, committing your choices into the hands of God. You must stand against every manipulative power in you or your choices.
- MATURITY- you must be matured physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, socially, temperamentally, vocationally, financially etc.
- PATIENCE– you must be patient. If you rush into marriage, you may be crushed.
- COUNSEL– no matter how anointed you are, you cannot see your back; you need people for counsel. Go for counsel before marriage.
- GOD’S LEADING– Don’t just jump into marriage, let the Lord lead you. He will not lead you astray.
- LOVE– you must love the person before you marry him/her. Love is the bedrock of any successful home.
- GODLY CHARACTER– you need to build godly characters and deal with anger, pride, bitterness, stinginess, oversleeping, laziness, stubbornness, extravagancy, unforgiveness, malice, nagging etc.
10) CONVICTION: you must be convinced you are not making a mistake by going into that marriage.
