15 STANDS OF THE BIBLE COUPLES SHOULD KNOW ABOUT SEX
The stand of the Bible is very clear on sex. Couples should know them, to make the most of their sex life.
1. God the founder of marriage was the founder of sex: “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth and subdue it ……” (Gen. 2:28). Man cannot multiply without sex. This is the first time the scripture spoke about sex, though indirectly.
2. Satisfying each other at all times and not defraud each other except for fasting and prayer: “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence, and likewise also the wife unto the husband. Defraud ye not one another except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. (1Cor. 7:3, 5).
3. The body of the wife belongs to the husband. The body of the husband belongs to the wife: “The wife hath no power, of her own body, but the husband and likewise also the husband hath no power of his own body, but the wife (1Cor. 7:4). “My beloved is mine and I am his, he feedeth among the lilies” SOS. 2:16.
4. Have sex with your spouse: Let the body of your mate satisfy you. “Drink water from thy own cistern, and running waters from thine own well. Let thy fountain be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
Let her be as loving hind and pleasant roes. Let her breasts satisfy thee at all times and be ravished always with her love”. Prov. 5:15, 19.
5. It is better to marry and have sex with one’s partner than to burn with passion (lust): “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband.
“But if they cannot contain, let them marry, for it is better to marry than to burn” 1Cor.7:1-2, 9.
6. Sex with somebody else’s wife is dangerous and can destroy one’s life: “Hearken unto me now therefore, o ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. Let not thine heart decline to her (strange woman) ways; go not astray in her paths. For she hast cast down many wounded, yea many strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death” Proverb 7:24-27.
7. Sex is likened to drinking water: “Drink water out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well” Proverb 5:15
Sex should be as natural as drinking of water, do not fight about it. Let it be done often and on reflex.
8. Kissing is recommended and kissing can easily fade away in marriage: Make it a point of duty to kiss your spouse daily. It is a form of intimacy. It shows love. It is an important form of contact; never allow it to die in your marriage. Kissing during love-making is good, exciting, and lovely, but don’t just limit kissing to love-making time only.
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth, for thy love is better than wine” Songs of Solomon 1:2.
9. Women can initiate sex with their husbands: “By night on my bed, I sought for whom my soul loveth. I sought him, but I found him not. I will arise now, and go about the streets, and in the broad ways I will seek him whom my soul loveth” Songs of Solomon 3:1, 2.
Good Christian wives should learn to initiate sex. It is good and Biblical, “Seek he whom your heart loveth”
10. Variety in sex: We should develop appropriate techniques of lovemaking. “His left hands should be under my heart, and his right hand should embrace me” Songs of Solomon 8:3.
11. Change of venue: Sex should not just be in our rooms and on our beds as the scriptures encourage change of venue. “Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages, let us get up early to the vineyard, let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grape appear, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my loves”
Songs of Solomon 7:11, 12.
12. Sex can take place anywhere in privacy: “Let us get up early to the vineyards, let us see if the vine flourish. Songs of Solomon 7:12.
13. Your spouse is the best, anything and everything you want in a man/woman as far as love, sex and marriage are concerned are embedded in your spouse, just take your time to explore it and enjoy your life, you need not look for satisfaction elsewhere, it is loaded in your spouse with security.
“My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand” Song of Solomon 5:10.
14. Wives should not be ashamed to allow their husband look at their nakedness:
“Return, return, O shulamite, return, return, that we may look upon thee. What will you see in the shulamite? As it were the company of two armies”. SOS. 6:13.
15. Wives should practice the Garden of Eden at home: Be generous with your nakedness to your husband, men are moved by what they see, never be ‘decent’ with your man’. When you are with your husband, unwrap the gift which you are to him, the crown of the gift of God to him is what you are. Enjoy undressing before your man, and also experiment with sleeping naked beside your loving husband you are in order.
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