TEN WAYS TO TALK YOUR WAY TO A GREAT MARRIAGE
– Bisi Adewale
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” Ephesians? 4:29? ????
If your plan is to have a great marriage, I know the route to it, it’s called the way of “positive talk”
No marriage can survive and be great if all that surrounds it are negative words such as “you are stupid”, “I regret marrying you”, “you are crazy”, “you are a witch”, and “you are a goat
A great marriage has its foundation in positive words and effective communication.
Every couple must learn this; the state of your Marriage is directly proportional to how you talk in it.
1. TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE
Talking to your spouse is a great way to a great marriage. Avoid TALKING AT your spouse. Don’t be abusive, don’t be confrontational or hostile, and don’t talk 0l l or destroy.
2. PRAISE
Be a praise singer of your wife; be very generous with praises. The Bible says “Speak to yourselves in Psalm……” (Ephesian 5:19). The psalm is a song of praise to God, but the Bible says in the scripture that we should talk to each other as if singing a psalm to God.
3. APPRECIATION
While praise is to commend your spouse for who he or she is, appreciation is to commend him or her for what he or she has done right.
The Bible says:
“As the fining pot for silver, and the furnace for gold; so is a man to his praise.” Proverbs? 27:21? ?
Just the way you like to be appreciated, your spouse wants it too. Appreciate your spouse.
4. TRUTH
Always say the truth and nothing but the truth. The absence of truth destroys trust; when trust dies love dies and when love dies, marriage is injured. Anytime you say the truth you not only build trust and integrity, you build your marriage. (Ephesian 4:15)
5. RIGHT TONES
The kind of tone you use in your marriage is as important as the kind of things you say. Speak in a low voice; do not shout for your spouse is not deaf. Shouting is a sign of immaturity. Speak kindly, and don’t raise your voice.
6. RIGHT TIME
The timing of communication is also as important as what is being discussed. Everything is not good every time. Some discussions are better in the night.
7. RIGHT PLACE
Some discussions are better in the bedroom; some can be easily discussed on phones, while many others must never be said until you are face to face with each other. Ability to know the right time of communication will greatly enhance your marriage.
8. RIGHT THINGS
“Say right thing, do the right thing” has always been the counsel of the wise. This is very relevant in marriage. The golden rule is, don’t ever say anything you don’t want to hear from your spouse. (Ephesians 4:29)
9. BUILD YOUR SPOUSE WITH YOUR MOUTH
Be an encourager and a motivator per excellence. Build the self-esteem of your spouse because you are well positioned to do this. Say “you can do it”, “it is well”, “move on”, “you are the best”, “you can’t fail”, “do it again”, “I am behind you”. Everybody needs a builder. Be that person to your spouse.
10. SPEAK LOVE AND ROMANCE
The easiest way to show love is by mouth. It’s not costly, but priceless to the receiver. Speak love and romance. As couples grow together, they tend to get familiar with each other and become less demonstrative of their love to each other. Tell your spouse “I love you”, “you are beautiful”, “you are handsome”, “you are the best”, “you look great”, “I value you”.
Wives should behave like that woman in the book of the Songs of Solomon. Read 5:8-16 to your husband. Husbands should also read Chapter 7 to their wives practically. These are some of the greatest love letters of all time.
Don’t allow the sweet talk die on the altar of “yes I do”,
Make your marriage a love affair and a place of romance.
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