14 Things You Need To Minus From Your Marriage
By Bisi Adewale
Unless you take your time to look at married couples and stay with them for a long time; you may not be able to know those of them that are really suffering in their marriages. But as soon as you move closer to them you begin to notice traits that make their marriages weak or strong . Here, I will open your eyes to traits you will see in a minus-minus marriage.These traits are negatives,so you will need to minus them from your attitudes if your marriage is to last. 14 Things You Need To Minus From Your Marriage 14 Things You Need To Minus From Your Marriage 14 Things You Need To Minus From Your Marriage
- Couples in a minus-minus marriage are known to be rude to each other. No respect and honour, courtesy had been battered a long time ago. They criticize each other even in the public they condemn each other and compete to embarrass each other. It is a way of life of minus-minus couple to be rude to each other.
- They also seek to dominate each other. Each of them wants to be in charge. The woman seek to take over the leadership of the home as she struggle the family authority with her husband, while the husband seek to rule in the house by force, dominating his wife, dictating what to do and what not to do, building an empire where he is the emperor.
- Minus-minus couples are also known to be arrogant, proud, pumpers and cocky. Ephesians 5:21-“submitting to one another in the fear of God” is not in their Bible. They are full of themselves, their marriage is like a kingdom with two separate kings, or a nation with two opposing presidents.
- Couples in this kind of marriage are known to be dishonest to each other. They tell lies so easily that it has become part of their lives.
- Lack of trust. Because lies and dishonesty is the foundation of their homes; this kind of couple do lack trust for each other. They hardly believe whatever their partner is saying; their mind is far away from each other.
- Since they are not one, minus-minus couple couples are known to compete with each other instead of completing each other. They do compete for the love of their children, they try to outdone each other in buying properties, the spirit of competition generates envy annoy them when one of them prospers.
- Solo Lifestyle. They are never together, no oneness, togetherness, bonding, intimacy or unity. They live solo life, they are married but single in the heart and act.
- At the root of their solo life is selfishness. In this kind of marriage self is the reigning king, the most important words are “I”, “me”, “mine” and “myself”. They never live for each other that is why they compete, they sees each other as rivals instead of seeing each other as companions. 14 Things You Need To Minus From Your Marriage
- Lack of forgiveness is another sign of minus-minus marriage, partner in this kind of marriage are known to be full of malice, bitterness, resentment, hatred and murderous thoughts. 14 Things You Need To Minus From Your Marriage
- Because of unforgiveness and hatred, it is very common for this kind of couple to quarrel, fight or even turn their home to a battle field where all “weapons of war” are freely used.
- Sexual denial. They hardly have an enjoyable sex life in this kind of marriage. Most of the time, it is a “grudge match” or mating like animals, without feeling for each other without passion or emotional involvement. Somebody rightly said that they do meet “biologically”, but their “chemistry” is not involved. 14 Things You Need To Minus From Your Marriage
- Lack of sexual fulfillment at home does lead many of them to extra marital affairs and infidelity thereby deepening the problem in their marriages the more.
- Third party relationship. As minus-minus fights they do give room for the third party to take over their home directly or indirectly. Thereby making their marriages difficult the more. These 3rd parties can be the parties of any of them, their siblings, their friends, etc.
- Instead of reconciliation, retaliation is the other of the day in minus-minus marriage; they take vengeance against their mate and prolong tithe life span of their family bottles.
Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him onfamilybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com,Website:www.familybooster.comfacebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale
