TYPES OF COURTSHIP

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THE FOUR PHASES OF LOVE
THE FOUR PHASES OF LOVE

 TYPES OF COURTSHIP

-Bisi Adewale

 TYPES OF COURTSHIP

Types Of Courtship-Courtship comes in different categories and different forms.The deep knowledge of this will help you identify the right one and settle down for the best. TYPES OF COURTSHIP

Wrong Courtship. A courtship is wrong if it is unscriptural. A courtship is unscriptural if:

  1. It is with unbeliever. If you are in courtship with a Muslim or any non Christian, you are in a wrong courtship. (Joshua 23:10-13.
  2. It is with a divorcee. If you are courting a divorcee, you are in a wrong courtship. (Malachi 2:14-16)
  3. It is with a married person. If you are courting a married man or woman, you are courting wrongly.
  4. Nicodemus Courtship. This is a secret courtship that is not known to your pastor, parents and family members. Your pastor/counsellor should be aware before you go into a relationship, and you have not really started until you get the blessing of your parents. Courtship should not be secretive. Do not allow anybody to manipulate you into a “close courtship. Some guys keep secret courtship so that it will be easy for them to dump one lady for another.
  5. Purposeless Courtship. This is a courtship that starts without a purpose with the people involved not even thinking of marriage in the next five years. This is very wrong approach. Courtship should be focused and purposeful.
  6. Purposeful Courtship. This on the other hand, has a definite focus. The partners have a plan of what to do, how to do it and when to do it. Though they may not have the definite time they are going to get married, they plan towards it and have a probable period in mind.
  7. Carry-over Courtship. This is a courtship between two Christians who have been befriending each other before they embraced Christ but which continues after their conversion without consulting God. It was part of your old things that has passed away. So do away with it. You started that relationship as an unbeliever. So, it should discontinue.
  8. Closed Courtship: – This is one whereby the two people involve don’t really know each other and are not exposing their lives to each other. Both of them have things to hide and they are hiding them. If this kind of relationship graduates to marriage, there will be chaos because they are not friends.
  9. Open Courtship. On the other hand, it is a kind of courtship whereby the partners are not hiding anything from each other. They are open to each other and expose their past lives.
  10. Captive Courtship. This is a kind of courtship where one of the parties involved is in charge, not giving the other partner any breathing space. Whatever he or she says is the final and the other partner may find it difficult to break the relationship for one reason or the other, even if it involves beating the ‘captive’ or turning her to a sex tool. Girls are often at the receiving end in this type of courtship.
  11. Turbulent Courtship. The kind of courtship always experience open brawl, strife, malice, etc. this is always the case because both partners see themselves as opponents and not companion.
  12. Filthy Courtship. This is a courtship filled with sex, necking, kissing, fondling, and all sorts of romance.
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God is not in this kind of relationship and those involved are endangering their lives.

  1. Pure Courtship. This is a courtship void of immorality. It glorifies God who is proud of the partners and is preferred to be involved in their lives and future.
  2. Dry Courtship. This is a kind of courtship that is draining those involved spiritually and emotionally due to what is happening in it. The prayer-life of many are dead because of their courtship. Many have become haters of the scripture with constant fight, malice and sexual sins.
  3. Balanced Courtship. For a courtship to be balanced, it must be pure, open, enjoyable and purposeful. This kind of courtship is balanced because all parties involved –God, the man, the lady are enjoying it.

They put God first before they started and are still obeying Him in courtship.

Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog:  www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter@bisiadewale

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