Building Your Marriage Through Thoughtfulness
-Bisi Adewale
Building Your Marriage Through Thoughtfulness
Thoughtfulness simply means you always think of the things you can say or do to make other people happy or comfortable. Very few people are thoughtful in their marriage despite the fact that they were truly thoughtful when they
were courting or dating. They did thoughtful things that made their spouse happy, but they allow this instinct to die immediately after their wedding.
Thoughtfulness is the mother of playfulness, while playfulness is the mother of romance. You can’t be romantic without
being playful. You can’t be playful without being thoughtful. So if you want a romantic marriage; you need to be
thoughtful. Lack of thoughtfulness is what sentenced romance to death in most marriages. Proverbs 23:7
AREAS OF THOUGHTFULNESS
To really demonstrate thoughtfulness at home, we need to be thoughtful in the following areas:
1. Thoughtful action. Do some things that your spouse will really love. A surprise visit to his or her office, an
unexpected meal. My friend’s father repainted his house to his wife’s best colour when she travelled. By the time she came back, it was a new house; the woman was extremely glad.
2. Thoughtful gift. Get the kind of gift that your spouse will love, when he or she least expects. The gift needs not to be
big. A small gift could make a lot of difference. Proverbs 19:6
3. Thoughtful phone calls and text messages. Call, just to ask how he or she is fairing when it is least expected. Send
text message just to say you care.
4. Surprise, surprise. Do something to surprise your spouse. In fact, compete to outdo each other with surprises.
Surprise gift, card, date-out, etc. I once surprised my wife on her birthday by sending a beautiful and expensive hand-
made card with a gift to her office through a courier company. It made a whole lot of impression on everybody in her
office. Element of surprise is good when you want to show your thoughtfulness.
5. Thoughtful words. There are some things you can say to your spouse to demonstrate your thoughtfulness. By appreciating and commending your spouse’s outlook, dressing, etc. You are simply demonstrating your thoughtfulness. In
fact, it takes thoughtfulness to be appreciative.
6. Thoughtful love-making. You can’t keep having sex the same way you’ve been having it and think your marriage
will improve. It takes thoughtfulness to give and get the best in the bedroom.
You need to be thoughtful to be creative. Thoughtfulness is the mother of creativity and creativity is the mother of
enjoyment and pleasure in the bedroom. Thoughtful performance in the bedroom may be what your boring marriage is
looking for to get a turn around.
You can’t get your marriage wrong if you are thoughtful. It will definitely lead to a better and stronger marriage. That is why you must make all effort to become thoughtful in your marriage.
Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter@bisiadewale
