12 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE . Part 1
-Bisi Adewale
12 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE . Part 1
Men are principal factor in marriage, majority of things that happen in marriage bolts down to what men do and what they fail to do.
However, there are mistakes man make that breaks comradeship in marriage. These mistakes destroy marriage without announcement.12 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE . Part 1
- Living without God. The greatest mistakes any man can make are to live a godless life. Most men think they don’t need God, especially when things in rosy for them. The truth about this is not far-fetched as the population of men in our churches today is by far less than the number of women. There are many wives in churches today without their husband. In fact, some men are fond of driving their wife and children to church while they return home to sleep, this is a dangerous game. Wake up men, lest; you sleep the sleep of death. God did not need you; rather you are the one that need Him. Give your totality to Him; break yourself loose from smoking, drunkenness, pool betting and all unrighteousness. Embrace God, live for Him; surrender your totality to God. Life without God will lead you into destruction. Get committed to God in a Bible-believing church as a worker not just as ordinary number and the other Lord will be committed to your course in life.12 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE . Part 1
- Being too hard. It is an erroneous believes that a man should be hard, difficult and unapproachable. This is why so many husbands were unfriendly, uncaring, dictatorial at home but most often very friendly with friends, colleagues and at work. This life style is very bad, it destroy intimacy in marriage and make your children to hate you. You should not be an angel outside and be a demon at home. You don’t need to be hard before you can command respect from your wife and children. If you are too difficult to the point that your wife and children feel at home when you are not around and feel under tension when you’re at home, is a sign that you are not loveable. The danger in this is your old age because as soon as they outgrow parental control, they will forget you. Real men are not hard or difficult at home. They are friendly, approachable, living, caring and lead your wife and children with love.12 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE . Part 1
- Food rejection. Another mistakes men make is to reject the food prepared by their wives in a bid to vent their anger. It is an act of immaturity for a man to reject the food prepared by his wife all in the name that he is angry. I normally tell men that the best way to demonstrate anger is to eat two-three plates instead of one. Stop behaving like a baby husband, stop rejecting food. Make a vow never to reject food again. No matter what happen, don’t reject your wife’s food, settle amicably.12 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE . Part 1
- Placing your family above your wife. Kingdom family follows strictly the due order of God.
Spouse Children Job/Ministry Others. Following this order will put your family in order. Putting your mother, father and siblings before your wife is bringing disorderliness into your marriage. You may argue that blood is thicker than water, the relationship you are having with your wife is not water relationship, it is a covenant relationship and covenant is thicker than blood. Your wife should come first after God in your life, not your mother, father or your siblings. Treat her like a first lady and she will treat you like Mr. President. 12 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE . Part 1
- Placing your Job/Ministry above your wife. Your ministry/job is very important but more important than that is your wife. Every job/ministry has a time lapse in you are eligible to work. A time will definitely come when age will not permit you to work again, retirement age is retrenchment can stop you from that job but your wife in a life-time companion who will always be with you at all times, only death can separate you from her. She comes first; let her occupy the front position in your life. In fact, research has shown that men’s performance at work is enhanced by the level of peace he enjoys in his matrimonial home. To enjoy peaceful atmosphere at home, let your wife occupy her rightly position in your life job/ministry and be a loving husband.
- Extramarital Affairs. Any man that follows a strange woman is not wise. It is one of the greatest mistakes any man can make. Extramarital affairs will expose you to sexually transmitted diseases like STD and HIV/AIDS. Apart from this, it also destroys precious and promising destinies. It can turn a man of worth to a worthless destiny. Those who want to achieve greatness in life don’t engage in extra-marital life. Don’t be deceived whether tall or short, black or white, fat or thin even regardless of their tribe. Women are not different; what you need is contentment. Be content with the woman you married. Are you entangled in an extra-marital relationship, break loose from it now and if you don’t know how to come out of such relationship; meet a counselor for help. 12 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE . Part 1Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of: Secret of an Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter@bisiadewale
