16 CAUSES OF PRE-MARITAL SEX
16 CAUSES OF PRE-MARITAL SEX
Bisi Adewale
There is no behavior without reason. We need to examine reasons why Christian youths do fall into the sins of fornication.
Please note that sexual relationship is divided into three, namely:
(a) Pre-marital sex (fornication)
(b) Pure (Holy or Legal) sex
(c) Extra – Marital Sex (Adultery)
Pre-marital sex is what most youths engage in before marriage while extra-marital sex is what some married people indulges in, when they are not faithful to their partner. Pure, holy or legal sex is the only legitimate sex, it occurs between married couples. It is Holy and wonderful, God loves it and it brings purity. I Cor. 7:5-7.
What we will be talking about here is pre-marital sex which the Bible calls fornication, though people call it “affair” “fun” or “love-making”. It is not fun, it is not love-making but fornication (sin), I would have agreed if it is called “lust-making”.
CAUSES
(1) Pressure from parents, friends, peer group, lecturer, boss, future-partners (etc): – Some men do mount pressure physically on their partners while some ladies mount pressure on their partners by dressing carelessly exposing their nakedness to seduce men.
Some male bosses in places of work do mount pressure on their female workers, they want girls that can work for them and still satisfy them sexually.
(2) Curiosity: – Many youths have engaged themselves in pre-marital sex as a result of curiosity. They thought they were searching for reality, but they ended up destroying themselves. They are not satisfied with what their parents, pastors and Christian friends told them concerning sex, they want to experience it themselves, But one thing that surprises me is that they are curious to know where people that die, after death go. But none of them has ever tried to die to have the feeling themselves.
(3) Television, Film, Radio And Video: – What ·youths watch on screen determine their behaviour and character, to make matters worse, every product advertised on T. V. is just promoting sex. In fact, to advertise food items they use sex, film, Television and Radio promotes pre-marital sex. Most home videos (except Christian films) are sex promoters. Atimes they will claim they are correcting this vice but what they display on screen, destroy the youths.
Film houses are always full everyday with youths who want “to know more” when they learn the theory on screen, they then try to practice what they have watched.
(4) Books and Magazines – Some satanic authors are in town destroying the youths, they write some sexual stories, books and magazines, they bring out many pictures that stimulate the youth to think about sex always. Having read all these books, youths do become restless until they have put into practice what they learnt in the books and magazines.
(5) Environmental influence – We live in a corrupt society where people do not see anything bad in ungodliness” they do not see pre-marital sex as sin; they see it as a normal thing (“just like taking food”). Hence, girls are encouraged to dress exposing their bodies. Pre-marital sex has become the norm of the society. Some Christian youths find it difficult to cope in this kind of environment; hence, they fall into this ungodly act.
(6) Covetousness – Greed for money, wealth and position is another cause of pre-marital sex. Some ladies want money at all costs hence they are ready to use their bodies to get it by sleeping around with men.
(7) Indiscipline- Lack of discipline has led many singles into the dungeon of pre-marital sex.
(8) Wrong association – This has led many youth into destruction. Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.
(9) Ignorance – Lack of good sex education has led many youth into pre-marital sex, some went into it not knowing what they were doing.
(10) Wrong information – Since parents have refused to educate their children on the subject and the church is not forth-coming with anything meaningful, the youth have resorted to any information they can get from anywhere either wrong or right. I remembered that the first time I ever heard anything about sex was from one boy in my class when I was in primary six. Of course, He was a wrong source of information.
(11) Bad parenting – Children that are not well brought up are likely to fall into wrong hands.
(12) Idleness – An idle hand is the devil’s workshop. If you are idle, you may cuddle the devil.
(13) Drunkenness – Alcohol has led many into error.
(14) Loneliness – Some claim they went into fornication due to loneliness.
(15) Broken homes – Children from broken homes can fall into wrong hands due to the situation of their homes.
(16) Impatience – Urge to get married at all costs has led many into error.
WHEN A CHILD GROWS ABOVE INSTRUCTION
HE MOVE AWAY FROM THE LAND OF DISTINCTION
WHEN HE OUTGROWS CORRECTION, HE ARRIVES THE LAND OF DESTRUCTION
Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale
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