11 THINGS LOVE IS NOT
Bisi Adewale
Love is an unconditional emotion from the heart, mixed with kindness and compassion, which makes one be ready to serve the other party or make the sacrifice even at one’s detriment.
Below are things which love is not;
(1) Love is not just a beautiful feeling – Real love is a commitment, it is more than just a beautiful feeling. A commitment is a choice that is backed up with actions.
That you are having a beautiful feeling towards someone does not mean you are in love, it might be infatuation.
(2) Not a sexual urge – Sexual urge is not equivalent to love. Love is quite different from sex and vice versa. You can have a sexual urge towards any member of the opposite sex but love is to that particular person God gives you the grace to give your heart to.
(3) Love is not based on that lady’s voice or that guy’s bank account – If this is the foundation of your so-called
“Love”, know that you are just being lustful and covetous.
(4) Not what you feel at first sight. You
can be infatuated or be sexually moved toward somebody at first sight, but true
love grows slowly with time. You cannot love somebody you do not know, you can
only be infatuated with the person’s appearance, voice or gift, which may later
grow to deep love or die.
(5) Love
is not blind – Lust and
infatuation may be blind but love is certainly not if you are blindly in love;
you are truly in lust. Open your eyes wide, if you think love is blind,
marriage will open your eyes. Be careful.
(6) Salutation
is not love· That brother
moving closer to you may not be in love, know that a good friend may not
necessarily be a good husband. That somebody is fond of you may not mean he
loves you. Salutation is not love.
(7) Love
cannot come from an immature mind· Infatuation is what often comes from an immature
mind and not true love. It takes a matured mind to love sacrificially. So, all
those secondary school boys and girls of ages between 15-19 that claim to be in
love may be lustful but not truly in love. Statistics show that less than 5% of
secondary school days so-called love affairs end up in marriage. Why? Because
it is based on a shaky foundation. Love is for matured minds, not for teenagers.
Marriage is for men and women, not for boys and girls.
(8) Love
is not in haste· Love is
never in a hurry to go into sex. It is ready to wait. TRUE LOVE WAITS, fake
love hastes and makes one a waste.
(9) Love
is not envious· What will
make a man pour acid on a man he sees with his partner? It is not love but
stupidity. What will make a lady commit suicide when she is “jilted”
by a guy? It is not love from God, it is madness
(10) Love
is not quickly provoked – Anger
does not co-exist with love, true love destroys bitterness and calls for
forgiveness.
(11) True
love is not without control – “I am so much in love that I cannot control
myself” This is not a statement from somebody who is truly in love, true
love puts one under perfect control. Love is like a bridle that controls
a horse.
© Bisi Adewale 2020
