The Making Of Royal Couples Pt 3
Bisi Adewake
1. Wife-Respect your husband: Number one thing your husband wants from you is not sex, it is respect. Respect your husband, reverence him, make him happy, treat him like a man, boost his ego and build his self-esteem; he will turn around to make you happy.
2. Talk, Talk and Talk. Talk as friends, talk as partners, talk as team mates, talk as lovers, keep on talking. It is the soul of your marriage, when communication departs in the home frustration will definitely set in. Talk deeply, lovingly, truthfully and positively. Talk in love, talk with purpose, don’t fight it out, talk it out. Don’t “war-war” but “jaw-jaw”.
3. Be committed to improvement: Improve your communication skill, money making and managerial skill, parenting skill, relational skill, matrimonial skill and become a better wife and husband. Learn to become a family expert; read books, listen to marriage tapes, attend seminars; by all means improve.
4. Be a Round Table Lover: Never be a battlefield person or a fighter; be a ‘roundtable’ personality; a lover. Let all the ‘battles’, be fought at the round table, talking about it; and don’t forget the first habit; love-check tongue as you talk it out. You must be a crisis manager. Reconcile and never retaliate; be a peace maker, never be a truce breaker. Be a positive partner; learn to listen to your spouse with a positive mind.
Don’t pack up that marriage; divorce is not the best option. Your marriage will get better day by day if you can take time to build these habits in your relationship.
5.Give humour a chance: Don’t be too serious at home, remember it is a palace. Don’t be too rigid, play with your wife, laugh, smile, crack jokes and throw banters. You are married to your friend not an enemy; relax and enjoy his/her company.
6. Satisfy each other sexually: God created sex to be enjoyed in marriage, take time to enjoy it with your spouse, explore each other sexually to the glory of God. You are at the centre of His will; if it is with your husband/wife. Bedroom is the engine room for marriage, never allow it to suffer, create time for it.
Use the power of pre-planned sex. You can also make it spontaneous, if it is pre-planned, discuss about having sex in the night before leaving the house in the morning. Call to remind each other during the day. Joke about it, tease each other about it, it will amaze you what that will do to your sex life. But, this should not make you insist that all sex must be pre-planned.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 40 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. Visit https://bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
