MARRIAGE MAINTENANCE MENTALITY
By Bisi Adewale
It has been said severally that Africans lack maintenance culture over the years but I can assure you that on the note of marriage that not only Africans but the entire world lack maintenance culture of taking good care of their marriage. Where there is no maintenance there will be deterioration and destruction.
Learn how to keep the home in the shape you want it to be. One major problem with marriages is the problem of maintenance, it is easier to start a marriage than to maintain it, at the point of maintenance is the point where many people fail, so you need to learn to maintain your marriage and be intentional about it, go all out to build a great marriage by, keeping it as a good farmer will do to his productive trees.
“Whoso keepeth the fig tree shall eat the fruit thereof: so he that waiteth on his master shall be honoured”.(Proverbs 27:18 KJV)
To maintain your marriage there are many things to put into it such as the following tools below;
- Patience. You need to be patient. If your marriage must stand tall and solid.
- Forgiveness.The act of forgiveness also helps you to keep your marriage, since you and your spouse will offend each other one way or the other in your journey in life.
- Prayer. Prayer is also needed, pray to protect, defend and rebuild your marriage.
- Time together.Spend time together, you can’t build marriage if you are not always together spend time together to bond and jell, it will be a special gift to your marriage if you do that.
- Respect.Learn to respect and honour each other, help each other self-esteem, by giving each other great regard no matter what happens.
- Selflessness. Be self-less in your thinking, attitude, habit and in everything you do, marriage is not just about you, it is about both of you. Marriage is not about I, me, self, Mine it is we
- Responsibility.Be totally responsible at home do your duty as a man or woman, be responsible, that is what it takes to maintain marriage
- Fidelity. Be faithful to your spouse. You are not permitted to cheat in that marriage. You are to take caution not to cheat on the following areas; Money, Sex, etc. Be totally open and be transparent to your spouse in building trust in your marriage.
©Bisi Adewale 2019
