HOW TO KNOW IF THERE IS FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE – Part 2

HOW TO KNOW IF THERE IS FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE – Part 2

One major reason God created marriage is for companionship. It will take friendship to sustain companionship in your marriage. Here listed what it takes to  know if you and your spouse are truly friends:

1. Unconditional Acceptance- Friends do accept each other unconditionally. They don’t just tolerate each other; they celebrate each other and make up for each other. No complain no comparison, condemnation or rejection. If you and your spouse have not accepted each other, know that there is no friendship in your marriage.
2. Friends make Sacrifice– Friendship is sacrificial; they do go extra mile to serve each other and endure inconveniences to bring greater joy.
3. Friends acknowledge friends- Friends do recognize the strength in their friends and celebrate it, friends don’t demean friends.
4. Friends pay attention to friends- Friends do attend to their friends with their ears, eyes, body and feeling. They do phone each other and give each other 100% attention. If you don’t give your attention to your husband/wife, that means you are not his/her friend.
5. Friends are loyal and trustworthy. Friends do trust each other with their secrets. Good friend don’t break confidence, they are loyal both in the presence and absence of their partner.
6. Friends praise friends- Good friends do praise each other. If all you do is to criticise your wife or nag your husband then, you are not friends.
7. Friends show empathy with friends- If you don’t identify with your wife/husband’s feeling, then your marriage is far from being a friendship.
8. Friends do not mind- read- If you are the friends of your mate you will not mind- read. You will ask question, you will not expect him/her to read your mind but you will speak out without friction or pressure.
9. Friends are equal. Good friends don’t dominate each other, they relate. It is not a master-servant relationship, it is a friendship. Husbands and wives must learn not to dominate each other.
10. Friends do count on each other for protection. Learn to protect and defend your spouse.
11. Friends do give each other unsolicited gift. Friendship involves giving. You can give without loving, but you can’t say you love without giving. Good friends give gift generously. If you are stingy or have not been giving gifts to each other, then something is wrong with your marriage.

HOW TO KNOW IF THERE IS FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE – Part 2

HOW TO KNOW IF THERE IS FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE – Part 2

Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, Whatsaap 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog:  www.bisiadewale.com, facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter @bisiadewale