HOW TO SAY “NO” TO SEX WITHOUT HURTING YOUR HUSBAND
Yomi Adewale
It was discovered lately that one of the main reasons men become annoyed when their wives turn them down, is not about the rejection per se but about the way they were rejected.
As a wife, if you must turn down his advances, do it wisely and with genuine reasons.
GENUINE REASONS TO SAY “NO”
(1) Sickness: If you are sick, let him know even before bed-time so that he can prepare his mind that there will be “no show” that night. As soon as you are healed, resume your duty.
(2) New baby: If you have just delivered a baby, sex should be avoided to allow your body to heal. Once you are okay and birth fluid stops coming from your vagina, resume your duty. Never allow motherhood to hinder your marriage.
(3)Menstruation: If both of you are not comfortable with making love during menstruation, this is another genuine reason. Immediately your period starts, inform him, maybe jokingly by saying, “Oh boy! Your visitor has come down here”. He will understand and switch his mind off sex. Note that sex during menstruation is not bad if you both agree on it.
(4)Tiredness: If you are really tired, notify him. However, EXCUSES THAT YOU ARE TIRED EVERY NIGHT CAN MAKE HIM TIRED OF YOU.
(5) Prayer and fasting: The period of fasting should also be separated and you should avoid sex during this period. This is not because it is sinful to have sex while fasting, rather, it gives you time to focus on your prayers. Note that if you break your fast in the evening, you can still have sex, despite the fact that you have intentions to fast the next day.
(6) Last week of pregnancy. In the last week of pregnancy, most doctors advise couples to stay off sex, so as not to induce premature labour. This could be another reason to say no but note that sex can come from day one of the pregnancy to a few weeks to your expected date of delivery (EDD).
